stop assuming the worst

i just read an article about this. its called ‘catastrophising’.

this is a depressive thinking style. the problem is when we are assuming the worst its not because we are thinking logically, we deal with absolute emotions. and emotions deal in absolutes.

what this means is, there is no grey area. so when taking a negative approach you tend to draw up an unpleasant picture in your mind.

this has something to do with your ‘imagination’ as well. remember that it is a style of self-hypnosis. expecting the worse results in a negative hypnotic state that ‘creates’ bad situations. you only make it worse.

so don’t misuse your imagination, remain optimistic cos when you respond well to a situation it becomes a good situation!

cheers

whew! I finally was able to stop assuming the worst. Man it feels good. Now to just stop fuckin assuming altogether, It pisses other people off and it pisses me off. I only do it cuz my mom does it real bad, rather than asking someone what they mean by something, she’ll assume what they mean, which sucks for both people in a conversation. On one end you got someone who doesn’t understand what’s going on, on the other end you got someone who is being misunderstood. Both mindsets suck to be involved in. So now I gotta stop assuming altogether. Next goal.

I finally learned how to stop assuming the worst. It’s about time. Every time I start to worry and think the worst of a situation I know nothing about I just redirect my energy into something positive. I try to rationalize with myself and instead of assuming the worst about people and about what’s going to happen with my life I will assume nothing. There’s no point in assuming the best from everything because it’s easy to end up discouraged or disappointed that way. If I just take things one step at a time instead of jumping to conclusions I can just let everything fall into place. Besides…the worst scenarios that I come up with hardly ever happen anyway. It’s just silly.

I always assume the worst in every situation. I always plan out all the ways that something could go wrong. For example, the other night my b/f was supposed to come over after work(he gets off at 5:30)but by 8:30 he wasn’t here and his phone was off so I assumed the worst. I started thinking that he ditched me and I allowed myself to get really upset and I left him 3 msgs about it only to have him show up at my door at 9. I caused an argument and ruined the night for both of us. This type of stuff happens all too often with me…it has got to stop.