all i want to do is stay there…Love takes a lot of work,like patience,trust, honesty…maintaining love is a lot harder than falling in love. 8 years ago
But I cheated….I married a giving, loving person who makes it way easy to do. How did I find this paragon? I looked to my right in a class, and there she was. 8 years ago
I hope I find this person soon!!! Time is passing way too quick for me!! But, I want a speacil one..one that I can hold on too for the rest of my life…honest, warm,sincere,nice…. 8 years ago
Something that you won’t know for sure, until you are in it.
Something I crave for, because seeing other people in it, I sense deep happiness and peace with self.
Something that makes everything seems possible and achievable.
Something that, once you find the true one, will sustain you regardless whether it is on sight or in mind.
Because love resides in the heart. And the heart stays within us. Not with others. 8 years ago
I married Lauren, the love of my life, on 12/30/05. So far, so good. 8 years ago
is that “loving” and “being in love” are not the same thing. Being in love is great, but it hurts just as much, when you are “in love” with someone who “loves” you but is not “in love” with you. You start demanding, because you would give everything and can´t understand why the other does not feel the same way. And everything starts to get weird. It makes you feel sad, egotist and miserable, and you start making the other uncomfortable, defensive and self conscious.
Definitely not the guy to make a girl “in love”. Don´t know why, anyways, but it´s already time to call it quits. 8 years ago
oh well, too bad. 9 years ago
I remember seeing this “goal” on someone else’s list and thinking “yea, that’s the right idea!” as I copied it onto mine. Well, that was 2 weeks after meeting a certain someone online. It was not a straight line by any means. It was 3 months until we actually met in person, and we could have missed each other entirely, but some little thing kept drawing us back toward each other. It’s so weird and strange that we met at all, like a needle in a haystack, though I suppose that’s how all people in love feel about the miracle of finding each other.
I guess the real trick is staying in love, nurturing that love. I feel like I’m just learning to live, and I’m no kid. It is not the first time I’ve had to face the fact that, despite the miracle of being in love, I’m still me. I am dissatisfied with myself lately (lately? usually!) and trying to work through it so it doesn’t poison our relationship in this tender stage.
But he is just wonderful! Just thinking of him makes me happy. He not only says he loves me, but the ways he shows it really make me feel it. He understands and accepts me better than I do myself. I’ve been having odd dreams lately, think they are about letting go of the past, at the same time as needing to nurture parts of myself that have been neglected/lost in the past. So all this foolishness on 43 Things lately is about trying to rise to living like a normal person while wrestling those personal demons. 9 years ago