Be less nervous around people

HI I HAVE ANXIETY AROUND PEOPLE AND HARDLY KNOW WHAT TO SAY MOST OF THE TIME. I FEEL DIFFERENT AND ALWAYS WORRY ABOUT GETTING HURT OR REVEALING THE WRONG THING. SOMETIMES I SAY THINGS I WISH I HADN’T. I LOVE SPORT AND DANCE AND YOGA BUT WANT TO START PLAYING GAMES A BIT MORE AND PRACTICE BEING INTERACTIVE. THE WORST PART IS I AM LOOKING FOR A JOB AND AT INTERVIEWS AND EVEN WHEN WRITING MY CV I FELT LIKE MY NERVOUSNESS WAS SHOWING AND MAKING ME A LESS APPEALING CHARACTER. I RECENTLY FINISHED IT WITH MY “BOYFRIEND” EVEN THOUGH THE RELATIONSHIP WAS ALWAYS A BIT STRANGE BECAUSE I JUST COULDN’T SHARE MY BURDENS WITH HIM. WHAT CAN I DO? I AM TRES SELF CONSCIOUS AND WORRY ABOUT MY APPEARANCE. 2 years ago

A fortune faded, I really related to your entries. I have been struggling with this myself! I get so nervous when I see people who I know when I don’t expect to see; like at a restaurant, or the grocery store. I feel so flustered, very nervous and I like my face is red. When my husband happens to be with me I will tell him how crazy nervous I felt and he always tells me that I didn’t seem nervous at all. I feel like it is so obvious that I am nervous and that the person I have run into thinks I am nuts. There is no reason for my nervousness, it is just when I first see someone. Once I talk to them for a few minutes I feel fine again. I wish I could find away to fix this. 4 years ago

I’d come face to face with an oollllldddd ‘enemy’.

I’m not a hateful person and there are very few people that I dislike, but this girl kind of brought it on. It’s a long story, but she used people to become friends with me. More specifically, she used my friends to become friends with me. It sounds so strange, but she was a very strange person and ended up flipping out on me for not being able to get my attention through all that ‘using’... :sigh: So I got upset with her for using people and had no idea what she was talking about at the same time, so I avoided her and she realllly didn’t like me then. It was an ongoing thing, because eventually she wanted a fight (lol). I’m not one for fighting, but I agreed to it to prove that I wasn’t scared of her (because I wasn’t, lol, she was so childish).

This scared her off, even though she was bigger than me, and decided to hang low by talking behind my back… Such a girly-ANNOYING-thing, so I pretty much let it go and never spoke to her. Dirty looks in the hallways for 6 years and then BAM! I never had to see her again.

So then I was shopping for materials for a project, and she was the cashier. I didn’t recognise her until I handed her the money. I almost froze, but didn’t make it obvious how… weirded out I was… to see her. So then she says “How’s life since Greensburg Salem?” Long pause…. “Fine… Yours?” “Much better. Nice seeing you.” “Yeah, thanks.” And then, walk creeped-outedly AWAY, unnoticeably quickly. She still doesn’t look clean of drugs though. lol

Normally, I’d be so freaked out not to say anything, but I think my problem with people before was “God, do I have to find something to say?” No, just say something, and hopefully it doesn’t come out weird.

Part of my problem was “oh my god, look at me, am I even presentable?” Sweatpants.. lol, I’ve done the college thing. I DO NOT CARE about appearance when I don’t have time. (But I still have to have nice hair though. Don’t ask). 4 years ago

Scenario #1: My last job interview was literally a bust. My hands were shaking due to nervousness—I don’t even know why I was nervous, I just wanted the job really badly, and I think that my fear kind of messed that up for me.

Scenario #2: I got my first speeding ticket a few months ago, and I was mortified. The cop asked me if I had illegal posession because I was so nervous, and nervousness (apparently) means that you have something to hide. How was it so hard for him to believe that it was simply because I’d never been in trouble with the law before?

Secario #3: I visited my old high school to give something to a former teacher, and I realized that I nearly forgot to breathe as I was waiting in the office for my teacher to appear. I had gone to that school, and waiting for something in the office wasn’t much of a deal then. I still know the halls and walls like the back of my hand, and the office staff was the same, but what was the matter with me?

Scenario #4: I had my first boyfriend at age 16. We went to the movies on one of our dates, and I was so nervous when he first put his hand on my lap. I had to keep looking to see if I was shaking, and I wasn’t obviously so, but he said he could feel how tense I was. I didn’t mean to be, but it still bothers me that I was and didn’t know why.

I’m extremely open around my friends, and I’m actually something of a daredevil, if that makes sense. But phone or personal confrontations with certain people? Forget it. I really want to work on changing this. 5 years ago