be a good wife

This weekend was great, my husband and I spent a lot of time just talking. We talked about something that had made me angry and I stepped out of my own bubble to try to view it from my husbands perspective, upon doing so I decided it wasn’t that big of a deal and apologized and forgave my husband. I think that was a step towards being a good (or better) wife and also not sweating the small stuff. I love my husband so much and I want him to always know that and never doubt it.

Well I’m a newlywed…only been married for 3 mths, goin on 4. I would say that in our marriage we are happy overall…but we just have a few differences that we need to work on to become happier. I do nag and complain sometimes…and I know it bothers him, and I don’t want to lose him because of it. He is the greatest guy I have ever known and I don’t want to mess it up. But I also want him to listen to what I say sometimes, because it takes me telling him multiple times to do something for him to do it, and it aggravates me. I feel like I’m his mother naggin him sometimes. I can say that recently he has improved, and I appreciate that he’s trying! I don’t want him to change, I just want him to cooperate more. I’m trying to do my part, and I think that he is also trying, so I’m grateful for that. But as for everything else I think I’m a pretty good wife. I cook great puerto rican meals for him, wash his sweaty uniforms for him (He’s in the army and works outside in the texas heat lol), make sure the house is as clean as possible when he gets home, I keep up with my appearance, we go out once a week to get out of the house and have a good time, I don’t mind him going out with his friends every once and a while, our sex life is great (I know we are newlyweds, but it has always been good lol…and sorry for TMI!), and I trust him. I’m sure that we both just need to understand each other more and get over our differences, and once we are both more able to do that I think that we would be as happy as we can be! =]

I’m married to a great guy. I don’t want to lose sight of that. I know I nag too much sometimes and complain but overall I love him dearly and want to make him feel that.

Lucky “U”. I will give my best 101%

...I even want to be a wife at all anymore.

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....no I’m not a nun!

Hubby is doing another show – Godspell and he is the lead…Jesus. I know when I go and see him tomorrow night I will be proud and my heart will be full of joy and I’ll be so grateful to be married to such a wonderful singer and performer.

Until then I’m tearing my hair out! Between rehearsals, learning lines, then the shows, matinees and after show drinks I’ve barely seen hubby for weeks.

Already he’s talking about the next show he wants to do. I would never want to stop him doing something he loves but he doesn’t realise that whilst he’s being the star of the show I’m sitting alone at home, fat and pregnant with two demanding children and a dog that wont let me sit down.

I’ve never really been the jealous type but suddenly I find myself thinking he must at least have a crush on one of the girls in the show – all dancers with perfect figures and voices like angels – and he has to come home to a fat, pregnant, cross and sulking wife.

I know where I’d rather be.
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Finally stopped and appreciated him so much more. I’m sticking beside him no matter what : ). This deployment seem to just bring us so much closer together.. and I miss him. I think now I can call myself a GREAT wife.

I’m scared I’m going to turn into a shitty bitch of a wife.

Don’t get me wrong, I am really awesome, most of the time. But I get stressed out and nag about stupid things, I pick fights when I’m frustrated, I get annoyed with my husband because he doesn’t live up to my unrealistic expectations (although I know they’re unrealistic). I don’t want to be the wife that my husband ‘escapes’ from when he goes to work.

I think I’m doing pretty good so far, I’m a domestic maven. I cook fantastic vegan dinners every night. I bake cupcakes because it’s tuesday and always show up at parties with some absurd oven confection. I can fold fitted sheets and I put Miss. Manners to shame.

I try to always be someone my husband can be proud of. I always try to look my best, I work out and watch what I eat (most of the time), I make sure I don’t look like a bum when I leave the house, and I try to keep him looking his best by making sure his clothes arn’t trashed and he has everything he needs for work when we walk out the door.

I don’t want to nag him about the same things over and over, and I don’t want to change him. I love him for who and what he is. I just don’t know how to reconcile my need for order and neatness and presentability with his insistence of the ‘pile’ method of organization, the fact that he puts his clothing a foot away from the basket and always leaves his coffee cup on the counter above the dishwasher.

I think I’m going to become one of the women from valley of the dolls. And it scares me.

What are some things I could do that would make me a better wife? I’m new at this…been married since late 2007.

just putting this in the “give up” section until I am officially his wife. :) At that point this will be an active goal again. This also clears room for other goals.