be a good wife

when I was officially his wife…I am now ♥ and I think I’m a damn good wife! I never would have made it to be his wife if I wasn’t good at something lol (nothing dirty of course) lol but its been 1 month of officially being married & I think I can check this once “given up” goal as done!

I am not a wife yet, however, I want to start making an investment in myself and in my relationship now so that I will be a good wife to the man of my dreams. He loves me like I have never been loved and he deserves a woman who will adore him, and I want to be that woman.

I want to put him first, the way he is always putting me first.

TODAY, when he gets home from work, I will have our home clean.
I will listen more than I talk. I will not make him feel bad for working these extra hours because he does it for us. I will kiss him like I have been missing him all day, because I have..

I am not a wife yet. But I know who’s wife I want to be. He is this amazing, strong, hard working, handsome, compassionate man that melts my heart. I first noticed him when we were 13 and now it is so many years later .. and we are very much in love. It is so sweet to love my friend of so many years so deeply and truly. My love for him grows daily. I didn’t really think that there was only one for me until the timing of it all just brought us together in the sweetest of moments.

I want to be a good wife with all of my heart. And I do not think this pursuit starts after our vows are said. I think it starts now. By his love for me, I learn about love. He is real, he is honest and therefore I know that I can trust his words. There is something so deep in my heart that makes me never want to do anything that could hurt him.

This is so mushy! What can I say.. I am in love. The kind of love that fills your heart with joy and I can’t help but gush :)

I’m umming and ahhing over this. As my psychotherapy draws to a close I think about the usefulness in employing a third party to help us develop our relationship.

There are issues to be resolved but right now I feel we’re making progress on our own. Maybe when I go back to work and we have a little more expendable income I’ll revisit the idea. I think it could be really positive.

well… i do have to get married first, but I am determined to be an amazing wife. I want to be a great wife, && wonderful mom. I want us to be open with eachother, honest, && have lots of kids. :]

I know he always says “if your happy I’m happy” but I never believe him so I finally started cleaning and doing more for myself and he has been so much more help around the house and more happy. YAH!!!

....in the wee small hours make me a good wife and him a good husband. We need to make more time for these they make such a difference.

... but still am a wife. Sometimes I expect too much from my husband and feel guilty about that because he never says no…

I’m slightly in shock right now as a close friend of mine had just announced her and her husband are splitting up after 12 years together/over 5 years of marriage. He works away and had an affair – not uncommon I suppose – but of all my friends he was the one I’d least suspect of being unfaithful. We unanimously agreed ‘he’s not that type’. How wrong we were, it seems this was not the first time – and this is a guy who doesn’t get drunk or swear and doted on his wife – the ideal husband.

Mostly right now I feel sad for them both, but especially for J who stood by him and supported him whilst he followed his dreams.

Also, on a slightly self centred note, I’m afraid. My husband shares a LOT of similarities with my friend’s husband – also a guy that everyone says is not that type.

I’ve being trying really hard to be a good wife and lately I’ve felt our marriage has moved to a deeper level of intimacy. All good but it’s meant some of my marriage challenges this week have been harder.

No 1. My mother-in-law.

Grr. I know many people struggle with their MIL but I haven’t had too many issues thank-goodness. Yesterday she took Jimmers out for the day (for which I’m grateful) and came home with some clothes…a lovely outfit for Stinky Pinkleton, a lovely shirt and jumper for Jimmers and then…a packet of boys vests. Hmmm.

What’s wrong with that I hear you ask? Well, nothing, apart from the comment she made about him not wearing a vest that day and it being cold and then saying she was sure he did have plenty of vests. Well no…he doesn’t have plenty of vests…he has none. I think they are a bit old mannish and I’d rather layer with t-shirts and jumpers more fitting for his age.

When I met my hubby it took some training to stop him using a hankerchief (personally I think they’re unhygenic and I’d rather use a tissue and then bin it) and old man pyjamas – there is just no need – there is more attractive nightwear for men out there!

It’s a personal thing and I’m not judging anyone else’s choices but I don’t want my son to be a wearer of old man vests, old man pjs or a user of hankies!

No 2. Christmas Presents

Grr again. Hubby and I agreed to buy only one present for each other this year. Hubby then announced a computer game is released tonight at midnight for a special half price offer and so off he’s gone to buy his own present. I agreed as I want to be a ‘good wife’...but I’m upset as it means I’ve been denied the opportunity to lovingly and carefully choose something thoughtful and meaningful. Hmph.

Oh well, in my attempts to be a ‘good wife’ I have chosen to bite my tongue on these matters!