Relax and not be so uptight

woooooooooooooooo!!!!

i love this goal but there is alot i need to work on..
i went out with my girlfriends yesterday..we were at a club and different men were trying to either dance or talk to me..but i had no time for them…come on now. i was slightly disappointed with myself..coz thats the way i have been conditioned and i don’t want to be like that
and so i have to constantly refer to my last post

Don’t worry about life, you’re not going to survive it anyway.”

for the past year or so all these things have started to get to me.. people, life, what im going to do…. and it all starts festering in my head until i can handle it anymore. So i get on google and research all these questions/ things that are bothering me, and look and look and look. Just doing that makes me wonder why i am doin it.

Over the past year i have gotten very self concious, and little f’ing things get to me, from how thing are, how people act, what people say to me. SOMETHING IS ALWAYS BOTHERING ME… can anyone help and give me some ideas on how to just chill out?

i feel as if this is making my life got to s”it… losing friends, and depressed! send help

Howwwww can i loosen up.
can you list a couple of situations and give me what an uptight person would do and what a sane carefree person would do. I really want to be carefree but i don’t know what it is.

Actually got a white ink tattoo on the inside of my right wrist to remind myself to do this!

I used to be so open to everything – talking to new people, going to new places. I’ve let myself get out of the habit of this, and out of the habit of just talking to people, like the person struggling with a bag up the stairs at the station, or telling the man on the tube his shirt button is undone.

It’s all to do with good boundary setting. I have cut off being open to the world as I’ve had bad experiences with crazy people. But I’ve realised that the trick is to set proper boundaries, and get shot of nutters when their nutter-ness becomes apparent!

I believe that a major mistake in much of my life—from talking to strangers to talking with my family, from dancing to swimming, is not relaxing. “Be here and now” is also, “You’re neither flying nor fighting, so why don’t you relax already?” Anxiety is defensiveness. so I just have to relax, enjoy what and where I am, and everything and everyone will be easier.

Normally, on a day to day basis, I’m pretty chill. I like trying new things and pretty much adore adventuring. I don’t have problems talking to strangers and new places are, generally, exciting.

But little things make me nervous. Certain things don’t sit right, and I ignore it for a while and it just becomes a bigger problem. and augh, then all at once I’m too nervous and agitated to eat or leave the house. My chest will feel terrible and I’ll lose a day or two of my life due to me just sitting at home trying to CHILL OUT.

Auuugh! I need to relax sometimes and stop projecting my neuroses onto others, someone is gonna get hurt.

fdgfdgf ifeelawfultoday. normally, i’d cry or something? but i’m not sad. i’m just nervous and i can’t relax.

But why is it that every time I “relax” and do something that I wouldn’t normally do, I feel guilty or otherwise bothered? My conscience doesn’t seem to understand the idea of relaxation…