learn to speak the language of the heart with fluency.

It is often that I see “Inspire Someone” as a goal and I find myself wanting to ask “Do you inspire yourself?”

I mean, if I don’t inspire myself, how then could I ever inspire another?

With care,

James

...what does “fluency” mean?

i really feel i am a “from the heart kinda guy,” i just don’t know what fluency means…

DISTRACTION!

cheers,

james

I hereby wish my team-mies to have a great new year, filled with happiness, health, love and prosperity…
Thank you PenneArdICS for having brought this goal into our awareness…
Continue con Dios amiga!

The one place this has helped most is in connecting with my grandmother. All I see now is a beautiful being trying to meet needs. Ahhhhhhh, bliss!

I have been following Ms. Aleta Pippin’s Authentic Entrepeneur’s Wisdom now for a while…
This week’s topic really hits a cord with Learning to speak the language of the heart, so I thought I would share with you.
The writing struck a cord with me, as I read about this lady communicating to her daughter more than her words…Her tone of voice and demeanor probably painted psycological stage for her daughter that will last for years to come…
Here are, in her words, some questions to ask ourselves when we communicate with other human beings, specially the little ones!...
“To become more effective in your communication, ask yourself these questions before communicating.

1. Why am I communicating this?
2. Will it help the other person?
3. Does it help to resolve a problem?
4. Will I feel better having shared?
5. Am I considering the other person’s feelings?

If you decide to share, a good idea is to consider how best to communicate your real feelings or thoughts without attacking the other person. The best way is with “I” sentences. “I feel frustrated when…”
She then explains that ourt reality is that all of us wants to feel loved and respected for who we are, and that it is extremely important we ask ourselves these questions before we engage the mouth…
I encourage you to go read on Ms. Pippin’s weekly power thoughts and enhance your business ans well as your personal life with her Power thinking and Wisdom unlimited.

Part of what I’ve dabbed into lately has to deal with assertive communication, as opposed to passive, passive-aggressive, or aggressive, which are the other main types out there.
The assertive communicator expresses his or her feelings, explains why he or she is feeling that way and assertively expresses what it is that he or she wants from the person he or she is communicating with…The template goes something like this:
I feel [emotional state]
when you [behavior]
because [explanation].
I need…[statement of assertion]

Such simple tool has been hard for me to implement and realize at times in my life. I am curious to know if you have any experiences with this type of communication, or how it ties up with the language of the heart for you

Sometimes when you speak the language of the heart, people misinterpret you, scoff at you and generally feel disgusted at you… I think the reason being is that they have noty experienced the joy of humility and giving of oneself for others. The negative side of this story today is that if I do not have the love within my heart for me first it really sucks…

As a Thank You for cheering me on to this goal, I’ve asked a few more members to join our team. I’m encouraged every time anyone feels moved to express their enthusiasm for someThing special on my list and enjoy taking the opportunity to let others know. The support here at 43T meets my need for compassion, companionship, and camaraderie :o)

Anyone who would like to adopt this goal or formally join our little group, just say the word. In the meantime, check out the Gratitude Project
at the Center for Nonviolent (Compassionate) Communication.

All the best ~

P.S. As I said in another thread on this topic, I’ll be offline for the next few weeks fulfilling my goal to “spend less time discussing life on the ‘Net and more time actually doing all the Things I envision,” including going places like Toronto, so keep the faith, hope, and charity (_i.e.,_love, compassion, a rose by any other name) while I’m away. Here are a few links to explore for a wealth of information on the language of the heart, including CNVC , PuddleDancer Press, and Healing Unlimited—Godspeed, Amigos and remember…

Wonderful Things Are Happening

To dmewm, so here it is!

We all need a pat in the back once in a while, and the best way to give it or receive it is by having a goal like this one…

Discovering NVC has been the most empowering thing I have ever done. The more I deepen my understanding of NVC, the greater the reward in terms of peace and ease with myself and others. I would like to introduce as many people worldwide as possible to this.