Stay married "until death do us part."

Well my husband will be returning from his deployment soon. It’s really odd…It seems that I have grown use to him being gone. Not to say I don’t miss him, just that I enjoy how things are now. I enjoy being alone and coming and going as I please. I have grown comfortable with living alone and perhaps that may create conflict when he comes home.

I really don’t want to feel this way. I want things to be perfect like they were before he left, but the reality is that we have been married for a year and only lived together for 4 months.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. I knew this is the way it would be when you are a military family. I guess I’m just a little disappointed that my emotions aren’t out of control like I assumed they would be after spending Christmas and all of those other important holidays alone.

My husband found out this week that he is going to Afghanistan.

At first I was angry and upset, but now I am OK.

It is just another bump in the road of challenges.

We will make it through this as well.

We will make it through any and everything.

I’m spoiled. I can be kinda annoying.
I am a little over dramatic. I often times overreact and have a bit of a temper.

But I really really love my husband.

So I need to learn that just because it’s Tuesday morning and he get’s up 2 hours before me because he has class and then turns the light and radio on in our bedroom doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me—it just means he’s not as considerate as I am.

Sigh

I cannot recommend this enough. When we first started my husband was very resistent. That was about 8 months ago. We went twice & then put it on hold until we could work on ourselves individually for awhile. Since then he has begun therapy on his own & has made giant strides in becoming a better man, father & husband. I also went to individual therapy for a few months & discovered myself in a whole new way. So liberating & exciting.

We have been going to couples therapy for over a month now & it has been fabulous. What a difference a 3rd person makes in helping us understand each other & learning to communicate. Eight months ago I never thought we would make it. Our marriage was absolutely awful – I never thought we would bounce back. Such a miracle & a blessing that we have – we are doing it! It is possible!!!

Counseling has definitely saved our marriage & I believe will help me to acheive my goal of staying married till death.

Love can be forever.