get better at small talk

sometimes when i think its gone away, it comes back again. I dont say much when i talk with people. im either thinking of what to say, or focusing on other people’s conversatiosn to see what they’re talking about. after i’ve spoken with someone, i go over the conversation and thigns to say come to me or i wish i’d said things differently. my attemps at trying to keep the conversation flowing makes me say stupid things, but i hope to overcome this. I know that i have more to offer.

Going to the party made me realize I don’t have as much motivation to make small talk as I thought I did. I talked to people when necessary, but didn’t “mingle” per se. I suppose I get really uncomfortable when the moment arises, but I need to work to get over this feeling. I think the best way to start is to begin with my friends. Maybe I should be the one leading the conversations and initiating them now.

I am a very shy person, whether I am church, school, shopping, etc. I would love to be able to talk to others easily and without worrying about what they will think of me.

Being good at small talk isn’t one of my better qualities. I tend to hesitate a little while madly searching for new topics or the right way to respond. I feel good about this though. After reading all the success stories I see that all I have to do to better myself in this area is to just talk. People seemed to have started off as uncomfortable as I am in this area, but eventually, they reach a point where it’s hardly a problem anymore and they can conversate with confidence. That’s where I want to be. To be able to speak my mind while being kind, pleasant, and uplifting. I’m not going to worry about what people might think of me or that I have to sound a certain way. I’m just going to be the person that I am, and I’m really looking forward to growing from this.

I’ve been practicing, its weird. Sometimes I have it, and sometimes I really don’t. I get weirded practicing smalltalk on fellows at the bar ‘cause then they like, wanna hit on me ‘cause they assume I’m interested in them that way. I don’t really like practicing on dudefolk at all for that reason, unless they’re dudefolk I know and trust some. Eeek. Fear?

I’m terribly socially awkward and I’d like to spend the next two years learning skills to get by in society. One of these skills is small talk, and general conversationalism.

I started looking up conversation openers. Intriguing that so many of the sites out there are geared towards finding dates! Honestly a bunch of the stuff I was looking up, including the general non-dating stuff smacked to me of PUA material. For example I’ve read in PUA circles that in order to reduce fear of approaching attractive women that fellows should make it a goal to approach at least one a day, or to approach the first woman they see each day.

The conversational stuff was similar. “Strike up conversations with strangers in a grocery line, read current newspapers and magazines so you’ll have events to talk about” etc.

So… formulaic. I guess formulas work? Still. Seems dirty somehow.

i wont to get better at talk to boys
i meet up with a boy the other day and i really like him it was the first time we had came face to face with each other and he did most of the talking i feel awful i could hardly say anything and i havnt heard back since

I am bad at small talk. I try to keep conversations going with random people, but all I can manage is a quick one or two word answer. An answer that is usually followed by awkward silence.

My goal is to change that, and naturally have a little more to say.

i guess i have my style in small talk now :-)

I am terrible small talk