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www.lookingforgirlfriendtodate.com 2 months ago

I won’t get into the details, but suffice it to say my first venture back into the dating realm was a disaster. It was with a friend whom I have been a bit flirty with lately and it did not go well at all. I am really wondering if it is worth it, and I think I will concentrate on the other goals on this list. 4 months ago

Having been out of the dating world for quite some time, and after spending a significant part of my 30’s with one person, to say that I am “a bit rusty” at dating would be a serious understatement.

Generally, I am pretty happy being a loner but I think it is time to take the plunge and risk a little bit again. 4 months ago

I quit OkCupid because it was so miserable… but then my semi-casual thing suddenly become not so casual. So I suppose that counts as dating! 11 months ago

I turned it back on. Can’t really bring myself to focus much on it. Sigh. There has to be some other way. 14 months ago

This one was interesting. Guys get keys, women have the locks, subtle sexual metaphor here…. Everyone mingles with guys trying to open the womens’ locks. It was fun and it took me time to get into the swing of this one. I learned a lot about myself and where I could improve with dating. Onwards and upwards. 17 months ago

There are no proper dates available in my age group. Not in suburbia anyway. Everyone here is old and married. 18 months ago

I signed myself up to a dating site at the ebginning of the year, and spent a good few months having the most disasterous dates ever. At least I have some great stories now. There were some great ones too, of course.

I cancelled my account after I found a nice man, but it didn’t work out. But now, I think I’d like to try again. Feeling a little lonely.

I’ll try a different website, though, maybe …

Note: I am using a website because I do not know any single males in my town (under the age of 70). I need a little help finding them. I know they’re out there somewhere! 18 months ago

... I hope.

Three or four years ago, I went to the bar at the bowling alley, where I’d never gone before and I’ve never gone since. There were some guys talking to my friends and I, and eventually, a really, really attractive man, the best looking person in the bar by a long shot talked to me. We all ended up going to a different bar and hanging out for a while longer. I felt really good because he was gorgeous and out of all the women at the bar, he talked to me… but he’s gorgeous in kind of a “just got out of the penitentiary” kind of way. I mean, he looked like a player and a bad boy. The same night, I met a really nice and also very attractive nice guy type, and for once in my life, I made a decision to pursue the good guy. When the first one called, I didn’t even call him back, and at the time, I felt pretty smart about it.

Except. the nice guy had some major divorce drama going on where he’d been sleeping with a coworker, his wife had been sleeping with his best friend, and he was just entirely incapable of making good decisions. In spite of all that, I dated him, and he was a really nice (if super dorky) guy, but he was like taking care of a kid. Every once in a while, I’ll see him around town and I’ll think “what was I thinking when I broke up with him!” Then, I’ll remember that he dressed up like Zorro to come to the racetrack… where I know and have to work with people and it’s NOT a Zorro costume kind of place, or I’ll remember that he listens to marching band music on road trips and I’m more than okay with my decision.

Ever since not returning the other guy’s call, I’ve seen him around town, doing not really bad boy kind of stuff. Like helping his mom fill out applications for social security, talking to an old couple at the grocery store, coming out of the Christian bookstore which also houses the cafe where I teach my reading student, when I was signing up at the gym…which I never go to. I see him driving around, I end up behind him at train crossings. It’s bizarre. My town isn’t big, but I don’t run into anyone else that much. I never talked to him though, or acknowledged that I recognize him because I was kind of embarrassed and thought that he wouldn’t remember me. I also got the story on him from my BFFs at work, and I guess he was, and is single, and is a super nice guy. Oops.

So on Thursday I left work on time, which never happens, I finished teaching my reading student early, which never happens, I decided to go past my house and put gas in my car for morning which NEVER happens. I was standing there, putting gas in my car, and L. drove past me and went in the store. I live half an hour away from the town where he lives and works, so the coincidence was strange. Since returning from NS, I’ve become less of a coward, so I decided to go in and buy a water and see if an opportunity to talk to him would present itself. We ended up paying and heading for the door at the same time, so I just smiled and said “Hi!” as if I were surprised to see him in there. We ended up talking for a while and he did remember me. He asked what happened before and I admitted to him that I thought “there is no way that guy is single…” He told me “I was!! I am!!,” which is good news, and he told me how pretty I looked and that I had really beautiful eyes. It’s been kind of a rough week, I’m frustrated that I’m working hard and not losing weight very quickly, and I haven’t felt even a little bit pretty in a really long time… like years, so it was so nice to hear him say that.

We’ve texted a couple of times since then, and again, he’s made nice comments and let me know that he’s single. But he hasn’t really invited me to do anything. He keeps telling me about his church, which I’m not thrilled about. I mean, I’m a spiritual person and I really appreciate sincere spirituality in other people, but I’m not huge on organized religion. If it works for other people, I’m happy for them, as long as it doesn’t make them into intolerant jackasses. But… I’ve heard that the church that he goes to is one of the huge mega churches, where the pastors drive Mercedes and have multi-million dollar homes. I like that he has something he believes in, but the details make me cringe. Still, I’ve tried to some uncoventional things in attempts to learn more about religion/spirituality/whatever, so I’m interested in hearing about what drew him to that church. I’m a little wary because I’m a pretty committed religious freelancer… and there’s not a shot in HELL that I’d go to a church that is anti-gay, anti-immigrant, pro-tea-party, etc., but I don’t know where they officially stand on that stuff, or more importantly where L. is personally. We’ll see. Hopefully I’ll have a chance to get to know him a little bit better and find out. 23 months ago

He likes some woman that’s from his hometown, but lives in Texas, as I discovered from resorting to stupid stalking behavior on Facebook. Why do I do that to myself?? I’m prettier, she’s thinner… I don’t know who suits him better because I don’t know him that well. Based on what I know about him, he’s really good on paper… and I think he’s not a bad guy. I’d really like to get to know him and find out. BUT, the reality is that I don’t really know him, and he hangs out with Morgan from the rugby team. Morgan is the biggest ass in the world, so it kind of makes me wonder… or at least feel better about him being way more interested in Texas than he is in Michigan. I’m not giving up entirely, but since finding out that I’m not at the top of his priority list, I’ll be way more open to other options. 23 months ago

Since the last goal, I dated a guy that my friend hooked me up with, but I didn’t really like him. He’s okay, but I didn’t feel any chemistry. Then I had a crush on a guy that sometimes works out of our office, but it doesn’t seem so realistic. Also, I know nothing about him other than he’s gorgeous. He lives in Monroe and he sounds dumber than he looks… I can’t imagine that he’s really that terrific.

I signed up for eHarmony, but I haven’t answered anyone’s questions. I’m just not feeling it right now. I’ve had a couple of quality propositions here in NS however… so it’s good for my confidence. The one guy… I really, really like what I know about him so far. Unfortunately, he had to leave for Atlanta before we really got to hang out together sober. Anyway, he added me on facebook, the whole rugby team and my family in NS see us as an item, so hopefully we’ll have a chance to get to know each other somehow. Long distance is weird, even if you’re established, and we’re not. I also don’t know if he even is a little interested in having a woman in his life right now, let alone me… but I’d like to have the chance to get to know him better. Prayers/positive thoughts would be so appreciated… 23 months ago