complain less

i SOOOOO need to work on this.

i’m going to try harder, starting now.

Another poster wrote this -

“Complaining for me is a conversation starter. If I don’t know what to say, i’ll say “I’m tired” or “It’s so cold” just to break the silence. I’m not much of a talker so it’s my resort in making what small talk I can.”

I feel the same way as this poster does! But, I am going to try and find other ways to start conversation besides complain, because it most likely has a negative effect on this person as well!

I read some other entries which make a lot of sense.

So – to complain less – I am going to try to express out loud what I hope to do to change what is making me want to complain.

Instead of “I’m bored” I will try to say out loud “I am looking for something to do”.

Instead of “we don’t get enough support for this at work” I am going to say “I am going to find out if there is a way we can get more support on this problem” through an email or phone call.

Hopefully vocalizing in a positive way “my complaints” I will start to complain less.

I am doing it less (grinds teeth…I will not…speak). I am going to try for one whole day tomorrow.

It is my first day of clinicals at an actual hospital, instead of a nursing home, so that will be interesting.

I’ve realized that complaining actually does not make you feel better like I thought, but reinforces the negativity. You can control your thoughts, even if you have to force it at first, it will improve your outlook.

So I did it. I went one day without complaining. So now I’m going to try to go for a week.

Complaining for me is a conversation starter. If I don’t know what to say, i’ll say “I’m tired” or “It’s so cold” just to break the silence. I’m not much of a talker so it’s my resort in making what small talk I can. But I relized how much I do complain, and that I should be so much more grateful than what I have been. Also no one wants to hear me complaining all the time even for the little things. My goal is to go for at least a day without complaining at all.

People should never complain about things they can’t do anything about, like the weather. “Oh God, it’s cold” – what can you do about it, really? Nothing. Wear warmer clothes and go on with your life.

“Complaining is the absolute worst possible thing you could do for your health or your wealth. The worst! ... For the next seven days, I challenge you not to complain at all.”

~ T. Harv Eker from Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

complaining is too automatic for me. happens before i even realize i’m doing it most of the time. i want to try to practice selective complaining and being aware of what i can do to fix the problem instead of automatically complaining.