All while growing up i tried to get other people to accept me and like me; My family, friends, kids in school. Then it escalated as i got older and lost my hearing; to men and my co workers. I never felt good about my self. I dealt with turmoil and abuse from my family constantly and ended up in a menatal and emotional abusive relationship. I always tend to look for self assurance in men to make me feel good. It gets so bad to the point i feel i’m not worth a dozen of flowers or even the time of day from my mate. My friends always tell me how beautiful i am but i don’t see it. I hate meeting new people or having conversations because i feel so low. But i really need to fel good about my self and connect with people who can understand.
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It is important not to let things upset me. Many times I find myself in a bad mood because I allow others to control the way I feel. I need to learn to trust my inner feelings and go with what I “feel” is okay. Its hard because I have always looked to others to try to solve my problems but I am learning that I can handle a lot more than I thought I could.. I get discouraged though…its a process.
What are some tools I can use to boost my confidence and self esteem? I went through 20 years of being in an unhappy marriage where I was emotionally abused. I’m in a wonderful relationship with the love of my life and I find many of those low self esteem issues are still with me. My fiance and I love one another dearly, but my lack of confidence and self esteem is a problem. How can I get over this cycle of beating myself up/pity parties if I think I didn’t do something right…Please help me!
To most people that see me I seem so confident and happy, I wish they knew that i fake everything. So many times i put myself down, hate myself. You may ask why, I am young 29, and have children and a loving and devoted husband. But i went threw some terrable ordeals when i was 6 till 16. Abuse is a hard thing to get over i know, but i was told all the time i was a failure, pathetic and useless. And latly i have been dragging myself down, i have no idea what set it off, some days i am confident and strong, and others i am a wreak. I need some advice and i apologise to drone on, i know there are others out there worse off, but i need help before i drag down my entire family.. Many Thanks
I’ve found. That after moments too myself. I find it a touch harder to rise to conversation. I’ll have spats of great confidence and convo then drown out and lose immediate interest. And I find it all goes away once I rebuild my self-esteem.
I went through a bump where all that was good in me was told that it sucked, and now I’m left not identity-less, but shaken. And those things that are strong will be shaken, like all the rest, but will not falter.
I need to quit drowning back to that point in my mind. when all was bad.. and where I screwed up. I think the dwelling and constant blaming of myself is keeping me in this state.
I love life, and LOVE ppl.. If only I give them a chance. At most times I walk with my head down and hardly even notice it.
pray for me. hope for me. And I/we will progress. It is the only choice.
Today I am making an effort to be happy. I am going to be positive in my thinking….I know this will take some practice because I have been so negative and cynical about life for so long. I will appreciate my children and my husband and everything they provide for me. I will find 5 things to be happy about every day. I will have an optimistic outlook on life and look for the good side of things. Every situation has something good in it if I look hard enough. I will laugh more, be more silly and sing and dance more. I will eat dessert first (well…maybe not every time :-D ). I will look for rainbows after the rain. I will slow down and notice the little things more….they are what makes life worth living. I will smile at people more and say hello. I will practice patience, patience, patience, understanding, compassion, love, caring, optimism. I will take a few moments each day to reconnect with the things that make me happy. Art, photography, nature, my children.I will spend some time each day being quiet. I will change my life.
What is this all about. Here’s me trying to boost my confidence and am compleatly baffled by this ’ thing’. Well god, we all no thats no all to hard but could someone please tell me what this is all about. :S
