Stop regretting things

and lose out on the moment (then of course i think, oh! true! all those moments when i wasn’t in the moment, lost, if only…) haha. got to pick up and start where you are.

I regret the little things that I don’t do, such as speak to that guy on the bus in Greece, dance with that guy who grabbed my hand at that gig, buy that dress. And all of these things are little regrets, yet nonetheless, regrets. I don’t want to start regretting everything I do in life and the way I used my time on earth. I don’t want to sit there when Im 90 and regret my life.

I need to be focused on who I am now, not who I was then… and forgive myself for making mistakes and just move on, knowing at the heart of it I am not a terrible/stupid/incapable person, just human so I am going to not get it sometimes, or react badly, or take the wrong decision or just generally muck the whole thing up… but its happened, correct what you can if you can and then let it go

i’ve been beating myself up over this…
i have a bad case of shoulda wouldas…just little silly things really. comparing myself to others. losing sleep over it.

There’s only us, there’s only this; forget regret, or life is yours to miss!

i regret most of it. shouldnt have been involved in the situation.

maybe i dont regret it because i at least learned to play by the rules even if it means not having as much fun.

i have been dwelling on this particular goal for a while now, trying to figure out how to accomplish it. i think that i am starting to be able to realize that
1- i cant change the past, no matter how hard i try.
2- all the things i regret were well intentioned
3- all the things that happened at least were good for a while before going wrong.
4- its not always my fault that things do not go as planned, and that there have been plenty of times when “not as planned” happens to turn out better.

so maybe if i can just keep thinking like this, i will be able to stop regretting things.

i might be getting better at some of my regrets, but others still sting and make me hate myself. this is one of my harder 43 things to actually accomplish. maybe it isnt to stop regretting things, maybe it should just be to stop letting my regrets have such an impact on me. although i feel having regrets may help me make better decisions in the future, they also may be hindering my ability to try things because i may be too afraid that i will regret it later.
i think i just need to realize that i cant change what has happened.
maybe write something for post secret or just write out all my regrets i can and burn them or something. i feel like i need some sort of finalization.