be charismatic

Develop Greater Self Confidence, an Executive Presence. No need for seeking anyone’s approval.

Light up a room everytime I enter.

I just read what I wrote a year ago and decided that i’ve made absoluetely no progress. Maybe I should start with the basic social skills before I try to become charismatic.

I want to be able to have a convo with anyone and not feel awkward. I think that stuff like that is the foundation you need before being ‘charismatic’. Ill keep this on my list though. :)

In the last year and a half, I’ve really hit my pace in life and struck my stride socially :-)

i think this has something to do with being confident and being comfortable with myself.

I play bass in church and have to stay back to pack up after the service is over and everyone leaves.

Today after packing I noticed an elderly man sitting alone by himself. I’ve seen him many times before, but because I find it uncomfortable and difficult to speak to people, I’ve only ever said things like “hi” and “bye” to him.

Today I decided to actually sit with him to have a proper conversation – found out his name and had quite nice long chat, although I was mainly listening and asking questions here and there.

I came away knowing alot more about him and his background. It was genuinely interesting..

I think I ought to do this more and try to overcome my fear of and awkwardness when speaking to people.

I am no raconteur, but I think I can be a good listener when I want.

what ive noticed about these charismatic people is that they actually care about people and listen to them. also they have a strong personality and are “unforgetable”

while i DO have strong personality i am more of those people who are cool “once you get to know them” and tend to be shy and distant with people i dont know well.

sometimes i am warm and engaging. so i believe! sometimes i feel so introverted or unsure about the place or people im going into or shy or whatever that i am anything but. it seems like the more places i live in and the more times i go through the mill of meeting people the worse i get at it. which seems in marked contrast to many of my friends who are really blossoming over the years. when will i hit my stride and what does it take to make it happen! and is my general air of uncertainty the reason people think im younger than i am (im 30) as opposed to my copious use of oil of olay