Develop a healthy body image

For the past 10 years I’ve been totally obsessed with losing weight. It has taken over my life, to the point where even when things go right I still say to myself, “I would Still feel so much happier right now if I was just at the right weight”. I can’t blame myself too much now because I’m very overweight currently but I felt this way strongly even when I was in the 133-153 pound range. Either way, I want to learn not to focus on weight as the center of my universe. I want to learn to be happy without reservations. I want to see weight as just one piece in the puzzle, rather than the most important thing in my life.

I’m a small and pretty fit person, but for some reason my body image seems to eat away at my brain. It’s a vicious circle that sometimes I feel will never end. It’s only when you compare yourself to someone who has an even worse view of their own body that you feel better. It shouldn’t be that way. Ever. I think the best way to think differently is to stop comparing and work on realizing what you LOVE about your body. Regardless of what anyone else might say.

I feel a lot better today about my body image. I’ve been wearing clothes I like.
Key #1: Wear clothes you like.

How does one accomplish this goal? I don’t get it. No one on here seems to know.
I suppose I’ll try affirmations and a healthy diet (I do plan to eat more fruits and veggies).
I’ll report later on any progress.

Everyone I know tells me how tiny I am but I still feel HUGE. People comment on how great I look and tell me that I’m in excellent shape because of going to the gym 6 days a week…but I STILL look in the mirror and see a HUGE person there and pick out small flaws on my body and look at myself with disgust. I don’t know if this will ever change. I don’t even know how this started. I don’t think I was always like this.

I wish I didn’t have to have this goal, but I find myself easily deflated by anything that I perceive to be critical about my body, or anything that praises another persons body when that person’s body is clearly better than mine. My husband called my breasts “floppy” today, and I am totally crushed by this. My breasts are large, but I don’t think Floppy is the way I would describe them! And to make matters worse, I am so sensitive that now, on Saturday night, I don’t want to go out. I just want to hide. I don’t want to be around other women who are dressed to go out. I know I will compare myself to them and just feel like crap. I want to be a stronger person than this.

this is a long process and i need to focus on other things right now!

and i am actually making some good progress!

its slow and there isn’t really anything to talk about but its there, i can feel it! i’m becoming less critical of the way i look and more welcoming to the reality of my body!

i don’t need confirmation from others to know if i look good at a particular time and i am secure in my sense of physical self…now i just need to stop the inner voice of doubt that creeps in! especially when something bad happens…

i was told by my man that i’ve got no butt…now i’m aware that i am lacking a big round booty but seriously, i had no idea i was totally without a butt!

doesn’t seem like it should be a big deal but it bugs me and i’m not happy!

then again, its not really something one can do anything about!

i feel bad when i miss the gym for a week
i figure that if i looked better, was curvier, looked sexier…i wouldn’t be single!
i hate being 6” tall!

i am so self-conscious and i hate it!