Release myself from excessive guilt and worry

These are deeply ingrained thought patterns for me. Fortunately my husband is the most kind, loving, amazing man with an everlasting patience. His encouragement and advice has helped me take baby steps of improvement over the last 15 or so years that he’s been a part of my life. BUT – I’m still not anywhere near where I want to be.

This was my “God Wants You To Know” message on Facebook today…

On this day of your life, Kim, we believe God wants you to know ... that it is time to finally forgive yourself.

Message from God

You’ve carried the guilt, the shame for long enough. You’ve kept your wounds open for long enough. The time has to come to let go, to heal. Keep the lessons and let the pain heal. Yes, you know what we are talking about it.

The reason I would most like to accomplish this goal is that it is so counter productive for me to dwell on things and is such a trap. It can be all consuming at times and is self indulgent when my entire being is caught up in my OWN feelings of guilt. If I can separate myself from my own feelings of guilt and worry then I feel I will be more in tune with anothers feelings and stop the vicious cycle and be a better person, a better friend, sister, daughter, mom and humanitarian.

given up just adopted another goal so I could share this journey with others

This site has a guided imagery exercise that I’d like to try but just reading it to myself brings up a lot of pain and regret and I fear that going to that place will not bring the peace and acceptance the exercise is meant to bring but a much darker place.

http://www.support4change.com/change/goals/forgive/yourself-script.html

Anyway I do think it sounds like a very good exercise, when I am ready to try

How?

Goals that are concrete, measurable with specific tasks and steps to acheiving it seem so much less daunting. Just looking at this goal can put the fear in me. But it is also exciting to make the decision to try and work on this. A little bit of guilt and worry is not only perfectly normal, it can be useful, it can teach us valuable lessons and guide us to better choices and to be better people. For me guilt has become a 4-letter word and it can be debilitating. I also worry too much, often over things beyond my control or I spend too much time anticipating the negative that by the time I find myself in the situation that had me so worried I am pretty wound up. Where does one begin to change something like this, that seems to have followed you most of your life? I am not sure but I am going to give it a shot!