Compare myself to no one, but who I was yesterday

How I did it: I'm a bit scared to say that this is done, but all signs to it being so. This controlled me for the longest time. I had advice from someone on this site when I first signed up and for the life of me I can't remember....sorry!!!...but it was life changing. In regards to this goal, they suggested focusing on myself, developing a strong sense of self, and really developing what I love - once you do that, they suggested, you realise how unique you are, and so you can't possibly compare yourself to others....and I believe its true.

I have really focused on finding the real me again. I have tried so hard to be someone I'm not, dress differently, think differently and that messed with my head. Because it didn't feel right, I couldn't possibly pull it off, so I spent so much time looking at others, seeing what they are doing, how I compare to them - it was exhausting. But now I don't do that anymore. I know all the ways that I am unique and that's really cool.

I have also been having counselling and that has helped. I started to compare myself to my husband's exes yesterday. I started thinking something along the lines of I am so fat and they were all so skinny....blah blah blah and then I stopped the thought immediately. It is rude for me to assume I know what my husband thinks or thought, and I actually have no real idea of what the exes were really truly like - all of their good features and their bad. So stopping the negative thought before it snow balled worked really well for me.

This will be a life time struggle for me. I just need to keep on top of it, keep working on myself, doing things I love, being myself and all should be good.

Jan 01, 08:52PM PST | 3 comments | 8 cheers