Stop caring what other people think of me

I really need to work on this. I’m alot better, but at times I still find myself caring.I come to the realization that caring about what other people think has taken over my life. It dictates on how I should live, how I should act…etc.

Sometimes it especially difficult when you live in front of a gossip! Someone who has something to say about everything. Sometimes I feel like I have to look/act a certain way in order to maintain this image of perfection so that people won’t have anything to talk about.

Well, its ridiculous! I’m not perfect. Why I wasting my time painting such a false picture with no meaning? For this person? For that person? So that they will approve of me?! So that they won’t talk about me?! Why does it matter when they don’t even matter? Is this person of any help to me and my well being? If not, why would I think about them?

Talk about me if you want I guess, but if you actually have the time, then you must not have a lot going on.So you’re talking about me in order to feel better about yourself in order to take the focus off your meaningless life. OR you can ignorant. And I was heard something so profound that will stick with me forever…” WHY DO PEOPLE PAY ATTENTION TO IGNORANT PEOPLE, CAN YOU NOT SEE THE WORD IGNORE IN THERE?!” Love it!

To all the people who I gave the permission to control my life, I want it back. Nothing else matters more than my well being and happiness. After all, I only lose and have nothing to gain when I start to care what people think. It only leads to them having a “say” over my life! My actions/thoughts/behavior starts to begins to align with what I think will be acceptable in their perspective. RIDICULOUS! There I have stopped living!

Its inevitable for us to all care to a certain extent about what people think. We’re human goodness sakes. We’re beings of emotion. We have feeelings. We’re not made of steel. It only becomes a problem when they have control over your life,when you live your life subconsciously trying to please/seek their approval. Its when you stop doing what you want is when you stop living YOUR life…

Whenever I feel nervous or intimidated in the presence of others I’m going to imagine them naked….on the toilet…taking a dump. Vulgar but necessary!

I will explain…

I have been reading a book called The Magic of Thinking Big.

The author notes that people often overvalue the powers of others whilst underestimating their own.

The most important thing I can do is work on myself and value me more. If I aim to be the best person I can be why shouldn’t I be happy. If I’m happy with me why shouldn’t everyone else be? This is something I’m working on. For a long time, I haven’t been happy with myself, as such I have assumed that nobody else is happy with me either which has made me really self-concious.

I think when we become happy with ourselves, confidence will naturally grow and the need for acceptance and approval from others will naturally decrease to a happy medium.

The whole imagery of the naked toilet etc is to remind myself that essentially we are all the same.

but it’s probably the most important thing I need to achieve in my life.

There are so many opportunities and experiences I have let pass by due to fear of what others would say or do. I’m really not prepared to continue like that. So slowly but surely I will achieve this goal.

I do almost everything with ‘what will they think of me’ in mind.. i wanna stop it

I used to mark this goal as done, but I feel as I’ve never stopped caring about others’ opinions – or at least I did for just one month.
I’ve stopped wearing most of my favourite outfits, dyed my hair brunette (I used to have it pink), took off my septum piercing, etc. Now I feel like I’ve given up on being myself, and with ridicolous excuses. It seems so hard to take my confidence back. :/

That’s why I’ve got a very important date tomorrow.
I’m going to the salon and dye my hair fucking pink back. The problem is I’m quite scared of reactions. Ugh.

i’ve been getting so much better at not caring what people think of me!
i used to be insanely shy, just sitting at my desk doing my work and not talking with people around me because i’m afraid that they’re gunna think ‘omg, why is sheee talking to us, she’s a loser’.
but now, i actually talk to some people. I”m an amazing person, why shouldnt i talk to them! hehe
but i still do have stuff to work on, like i wont dance crazily in front of people because i’m afraid they’ll think i’m a loser, and i wont do drama presentations, etc.
but i’m getting there!

Ugh I’m sick of buying expensive clothes and not wearing them just because I’m too scared of people staring at me. It’s gotten ridiculous. I never used to be this bad. :/ I’m even nervous when I’m walking down the road! I get scared waiting for the bus just because there’s houses outside the bus shelter and people might see me. I’m not the ugliest person ever, why should I live in fear?

I’m so sick of caring what other people think of me. It indeed effects my life. So I want to change the situation.

I’m just fed up walking around with this knot in my stomach, with a pang everytime i THINK others are looking at me and thinking i am weird and stuff. I am fed up pushing people away because I think they might look down on me if they knew the real me, or by fearing i might not be good enough. i am done with being scared of saying hi to people, or saying something an agonizing for hours at a time what that other person would have thought. i don’t mean i want to stop caring about anything people think about me, i am just fed up with it ruling my life as it is right now.

numb, repress, hide, or apologize for my unique self!