avoid perfectionism

1. Don’t put too much efforts on trivial tasks
2. Don’t try to please everyone by doing too much
3. Don’t try to quarrel with someone when things are not perfect by design
4. Strive for what is wanted genuinely rather than what is advocated by many
5. Consider refining the goal if the achieving process contains too much anxiety

I can be very understanding when it comes to someone else’s problem, but for me it always sounds like I’m just coming up with an excuse. It’s time I give myself a break just like I would for anyone else…

I don’t need to be perfect – no one can! God made me this way for a reason!

I’ve decided to leave things at about the 80% mark.

I wrote a cool song, left it about there and played it to my family. They said it needs development so I disowned the feckers.

I wrote another one and left it around the 70% mark because it was late and I couldn’t be arsed… Everyone thinks it’s wonderful so I played it on stage and got loads of warm compliments from just about everyone.

Thus: Do lots of crappy things instead of a few good ones. Solid gold safe advice, that.

ive learned to embrace my mistakes and imperfections, because it is totally impossible to be perfect. and boring!

im realizing that this is probably the most important goal i have and i didnt even mean for it to be. trying to be perfect is tiring, and something i try to do often. no one is perfect and people who try to appear that way come off as strange and fake. it helps to realize that i am going to be imperfect no matter what i do…and that its a lot better to accept imperfections and embrace them.

Here’s a brochure which I found helpful for breaking the problem down a bit: http://www.couns.uiuc.edu/Brochures/perfecti.htm

Remember, we don’t have to totally defeat perfectionism, we must allow outselves to be only 80% unperfectionistic!

I’ve been wondering how to make this goal more positive… “avoid perfectionism” tells me what not to do, and gives me a mental image of perfectionism—not what I want to concentrate on.

I’ve adopted a new goal: make new mistakes

it combines allowing myself to be wrong with the playfulness of trying new things… and the mental image is of someone not concentrating on outcome but exploring and learning.

This is a more positive goal, it defeats perfectionism and seems more achievable.

Otherwise, I think it literally could have killed me.