some new neighbours (well, from the neighbourhood) came to the party.
Where we lives, majority of people are retired, so it is nice to spot the younger families. I don’t think they have much family nearby either, so it is nice to expand our circle.
S. is very relaxed, doesn’t seem like a typical English bloke. 5 months ago
Now to find a babysitter. Since we’ve moved I don’t really want to ask my old neighbour. Maybe just once more? 7 months ago
We go out at least twice a year for dinner. It’s nice to catch up away from the school gates. 9 months ago
Sometimes you just hit a topic that resonates with a couple of areas…!
So, it can take hard work to be happy. And it takes effort to have a social life.
Added bonus of NaNoWriMo (and there are many!) is the perfect excuse to get out of the house and be with a like-minded group. In this month where I’ve been more insanely busy than any (since I stopped studying!) I’ve ironically also been way more socially active.
When I don’t have the excuse – like NaNo – I can retreat into my shell. I think, “Oh, sofa is so much more appealing!” or “Why should I pay for overpriced coffee when I can have a nice cuppa at home?” or even “But it’s dark out!” (added winter bonus: it’s dark out when I leave work anyway, so walking home in the dark at 8pm isn’t all that different!).
Writing groups continue after November. This is me stopping making excuses, and instead looking for excuses to get out and about and be with actual people! 9 months ago
I baked a carrot cake, it seemed a little dry. I’m sure that some cream cheese icing will help it along.
I’m planning to have the kids help me. I have to make myself chill out and relax when I’m baking/cooking with them. It is not an inherently relaxing thing, but that is not the point!
When I read Nigella Lawson’s “How to Eat” she often mentions stirring this or that to “help” her mother. At some point, it becomes genuine help. But skills are transferred. and love of food. My daughter is a picky eater lately, so this strategy might work.
Looking forward to entertaining for the last time in our current home. 10 months ago
We had lunch with Uncle S. and then played in the park. It was so nice to catch up.
Saw some wonderful ideas for my garden. Olive trees with grasses; lime tree circle with lovely seats 11 months ago
We’re going to go out on Father’s Day with some friends and our children. The pub has a field behind it to play in, might bring some toys to play with, a ball at the least. 15 months ago
We had a really relaxed afternoon, they are great company.
Before we move (she said optimistically) I wanted to invite them over a few times in a more formal way.
In summer, we sometimes have quite fluid evenings, where we share what we’ve prepared for dinner. The kids playing usually prompts it.
The food was good too, salmon on the barbecue, very nice.
Chocolate pecan brownies for dessert. 15 months ago
My mother and stepfather are visiting, so has been a busy week, between work and seeing them every night. The children are loving it. It is so nice to have family around us. 16 months ago
It was nice. Though seven children together = chaos. 18 months ago
Birthday party to go to tonight. Let there be dancing! 19 months ago
Before you think I’m underage, I hasten to add, that it is the parents of school children and PTA members I was thinking about for my social life.
That probably helps explain why my social life is so bare, or sparse.
Aaah kids, they do take up a lot of time, emotion and money. Which is all good, I’m up for that, but a little bit more grown up time, and people who don’t call me so-and-so’s mum would be good.
Some long-term friends have moved out of the country (three in one year!) so time to rebuild our social life and circle.
I like this goal 19 months ago
I am sorry I’ve been such a shit friend over the past year or two (or three, or…?) but FINALLY I’ve reached a point where I don’t feel I have to prioritise studying to the point that you all think I’m ignoring you. I’m not, and I hope going forwards we can not ignore each other a little more up close and frequently!
Thank you :)
As a ps, I saw a bloke in Starbucks this afternoon who looked like a younger, less intimidatingly-super-hot-but-still-very-cute version of Ben Browder. In real life. Wowzah. Alas, I’m not that brave (and I was also with my dad – sure as I am that he’d like to see me happy, over-awkward doesn’t quite cover that!) but… well, there are attractive guys out there who maybe aren’t utterly out of my league, and it’s really getting time to stop ignoring that social life…! o_O 23 months ago
....by reconnecting with a few long lost friends from waaaaaay back in the day. Its honestly kick-started this growth phase I am in now as I perceived getting back in touch to be a a risky move. In my head I had abandoned these people and I imagined they would be irate at me when I reached out to them and instantly reject me.
But they weren’t.
They were happy.
Obviously some people from your past should stay there, but these people were essentially my family at the time we were close.
So next phase is to find some new people to add to the mix. I have been told I should join a class or volunteer, and honestly at first I found this advice to be a little twee and obvious. But, given my current situation, it is starting to make a lot of sense. 1 year ago