the fact that im doing what i need to do to better myself, i am putting myself first. i still dont have alot of alone to think get out an relax time but i am certainly putting me first :) 5 months ago

Had a facial! Very relaxing. 15 months ago

something else was always more important.
Especially work.
Or TV.
Or anything.

Only when my husband noticed that work was eating our whole life and we spent the last 2 years working and not doing much besides I got my wake up call….

It’s a long road and I’m only at the beginning, but I made my first steps. 15 months ago

i’ve done much better at this lately. ended a short term relationship b/c it was very one-sided and my needs weren’t getting met.

told one of the girls at work that she can’t have my two extra days off at xmas time. i really want those days for myself.

overall, i’ve just been backing away and re-examining my relationships, listening to myself, and taking care of me. 18 months ago

Lessons & tips for how to find peace:

Learn to be quiet with yourself.

Find a one-syllable mantra (like peace!) and say it over and over until you feel it.

When life feels overwhelming, ask yourself if you’re ok. Really ok.

Even when disaster strikes, you are still here, and ready to get to the next moment. Emotionally, you may feel like a wreck, but physically, your body is still present, still living, still ticking in a way that’s moving you away from the disaster. Focus on that.

As often as you can, be an observer of your life and your thoughts.

By calmly observing things unfold around you, you can achieve a greater sense of peace because you are removed as being hyperactive and reactive. Only then are you more empowered to take the right kind of action, while discovering peace is with you.

Do not replay bad events over and over again in your head. You will only relive the trauma, the sense of loss, and cause yourself more harm than the event itself actually caused you. 20 months ago

is on the list because I don’t do this nearly enough. I feel selfish even writing it down, but I want to remind myself that I need to put myself first – my health, mental and physical well being – taking the time to do things that nurture me. Growing up, I had to put my needs and wants last, and that has made me too self-sacrificing today. I want to spend more time nurturing myself. 20 months ago