find someone who really loves me just for me

ok so iv found a guy
who likes me for me, but hes my mate
and i really dont want to do something stupid and end up hurting him!
and hate to admit , but im scared of getting physical after one of my ex’s :s
what to dooo???

a couple of weeks ago i got a text message from him saying “you have no reason to believe me, but i love you and i always will. where i was once lost, i no longer am”. well obviously i couldnt ignore that, so i called him. we got to talking, he professed his love and talked about getting back together. i was excited but still hesitant- we repeat this pattern often and he usually ends up dumping me. i invited him to come visit me for the weekend so that we could talk about it in person more rationally. he came down, things were comfortable. we both said i love you and held hands. then the subject of getting back together came up… i told him i am willing to make it work if we are both in it 100%. he made excuses, saying his job is going to consume lots of his time, etc, etc, and hes not sure if he can build a relationship on top of that. it was all bullshit (i have a job too and am twice as busy as him). i looked into his eyes and knew he was going to hurt me again. i told him to stop coming back if he doesnt intend to ever stay. so i said goodbye, let him sleep on the couch, and told him to be gone by the time i woke up in the morning.
i woke up, and he was gone. i felt an odd sense of relief. it’s finally over.

i thought i had found him, but then he ended it. gave him multiple chances but he always ends up breaking up with me. i want to date new guys but can’t seem to meet anyone decent. i’m in an art school, and about 80% of the guys around me are gay. this makes it very difficult to meet decent, STRAIGHT men. i don’t know where to look!

I already have friends and family who love me for me (because they cannot find another reason to love me). I should be grateful for that, right?

We met my junior yr in highschool. Gave him my number, but he never called. Saw him again a month later at a convention for an organization we both belonged to. Spent the week together. He met my mom. my mom loved him. When we go back home we stared going out on movie dates, upgraded to dinner dates. Eventually he asked me out. We dated all through my senior year. Applied and got accepted to the same college… hit a couple of bumps down the road, but we’re still together. He loves me unconditionally, and has been my support since the day I met him. I can’t picture my life void of him. I hope to marry him, but if I don’t I can’t imagine regretting being with him.

I made a lot of mistakes and he forgave them all, that’s when I knew he really loved me. We spent months apart when I left for college (I left for the summer term, he didn’t come up till fall term. I dated around, found a lot of cute, older guys… but no one like him.

I found a good one, and I’m sticking to him.