be more selfish

I need to become more selfish in relationships. I am too giving and generous and the person starts to take me for granted. I wish it wasn’t this way but I guess that’s all part of life, and the game of love.

I’m no saint, but nice guys always finish last and I need to be less considerate of others.

This sounds really ridiculous but I don’t like things the way they are and so I am going to try mixing things up. Right on.

1. God
2. Staying well and sober and romantically strict
3. my job
4. what books i am reading, the classes i am taking, what education i am getting
5. what creative writing ideas i am working on
6. acting and theatre
7. relaxing: working out, sun, swim, reading
8. volunteer work
9. keeping in touch with friends
10. having good rapport with males
11. buying nice clothes
12. learning about vitamins
13. learning different languages
14. thinking and learning about male female relationships, being ina relationship with MYSELF before being with other people

I’m living my life, and it’s time I start taking myself into consideration.

This one my be to hard for me. It’s just not in there. I can’t help it. I have a feeling it may be connected to someone else. We’ll see.

I needed to learn to put my needs first at times and also learn to make myself and my needs as important as others’.

My focus has changed now. That lesson has been learned, and now I want to continue on my journey having a healthy consideration for my own needs, which I have learned, but living with respect and love and giving for others.

Because of this exercise, I learned better balance.

I’m getting there but still way behind. Might need some help.

It seems that I am always going against what I want to do in order to accomodate others. I will rearrange my schedule, not do the things I want to do, not get things done I need to get done all because I don’t want to make anyone angry or hurt anyone’s feelings. What can I say? I’m “too nice.” Doing this is really starting to eat at my own happiness. Today, I’ve decided that I am going to try to say, “No” when I want to say no, and stop moving my schedule around to fit what other people want. This will not be easy for me as I’ve become quite the pushover, lately. In addition to being too nice, I am always a bit too empathetic toward other people’s feelings—and I neglect myself in the process of being understanding toward others. I want to be nice, yet assertive about my needs without having to justify myself. The only problem is . . . once you’ve let others push you around long enough, I’ve noticed they tend to get a little upset when you’re no longer accomodating. I want to meet my own needs without feeling guilty about it.

now my life is easier, even if i feel a little emptier now =( anyway, my life is better now!! i cant live constantly struggling for others’ feelings

my life is easier now, but i feel a little bit.. emptier :( by the way, i’m happier now