say "no" to people who ask too much of me

I do not want people to think that I am liar but I’m really smart for some things, such as: computer, research, strategy, etc.

I recently ended a friendship with a person who asks too much of me. This goal is about saying no and I always thought of it as saying no to requests but I was in a friendship that was only creating problems for me in other areas of my life. This friend didn’t want to change and couldn’t come around to seeing the things that were important to me so I decided to just say no to the whole thing. But by being in an unproductive and unhealthy relationship this person was asking too much of me.

I’m glad I saw this goal on my list today and was able to apply it to my situation, it makes me feel more comfortable with my decision.

and it feels good sometimes. Now that I really have learned to value my free/personal time, it’s easier to limit my commitments.

Have I ever said that? Have I ever said that to the people that I care about or feel obligated to? NO. Why? I’m too nice. I can’t say no. I have to do everything everyone asks of me. When was the last time I did something because I wanted to? I never get thanks from these people? Would I get thanks from myself? I believe I would. By body would thank me. My mind would thank me. All those selfish people can get their own shit.

just now someone i just began to hang out with – asked me if she could stay at my house monday and tuesday night!

she’s already been over 3x! in a row! until 10:30pm! – once invited , 1 she invited herself, and tonight she popped over!

anyway… i told her sorry, but i cant help ya- already have plans!!

yea- to be left alone! gees- overstayed welcomes!

People will walk all over you if you don’t say no.

Don’t get too O.T.T either way, don’t say yes all the time, but don’t say no all the time.

Once you’ve said no once, you’ll long to say it again!

ive done it and am going to keep doing it

I quit my job. How’s that for saying “no”?
OK maybe a bit extreme, but I will start fresh and this time I will communicate better.

Some of my friends got upset about this…but later they started respecting me more. They now know to respect my time and in turn I enjoy a lot more the time I spend with them. There are some who will always try to cross those boundaries I have; allowing them to cross my boundaries would mean I don’t even have respect for myself. Respect is the minimum requirement for any kind of friendship. I am glad to have finally stopped letting others control who I am and what I do.

Last year I threw myself into every volunteer helping organizing planning assisting advice-giving light-hanging project-doing position I could. I helped people whenver they asked and it was fabulous. Unfortunately I couldn’t physically keep up with the wear and tear of caring for others every moment. This year I decided to give myself some time to check in and see what I really wanted to do. Now I’m still helping people and making a difference through my job and the choices I make, but learning to say “no” has been really important. I now have time to make sure I’m healthy and happy, which better equips me to help other people. It is always good to help others and have time for yourself in MODERATION. Any excess should be jettisoned posthaste!