know what love is

What is Love? For 3 years of my life, 3 wasted years, I thought I had Loved.
I thought i had what i wanted; but 4 break-ups, 3 make-ups, a busted hand, a broken wall, and a helluva lot of tears later- I feel lonley and confused and rejected and hated and uncared for…
Most of all I just want someone to talk to…
Someone out there that knows what the hell im talking about
and someone who understands…
I don’t know if I’ll ever find love, but if it’s willing,it’ll find me…

ive had two serious realtionships in my life one i screwed up n the secound im scared im about to the secound time round i really tought i was in love bt cant find it insdie myself to know that i do i dont think that thinking im in love is good enough everytime it happens i feel darker inside more afraid to open up almost to the point where my funreal will be a one man show ME!

I wanna know what love is there is this guy ive like since i was a kid he went to my church his name is steven and we have pretty much the same life story we have the same religion and our dads died within a year of each other and we match so perfectly and recently ive been having these weird dreams where i married him and all i can think of is him i havent seen him in a while and i just wanna know what love is i mean im 18 years old and ive never been on a date and ive never been kissed and i know waht your all thinking does she live under a rock well my religion is like literally 2 steps away from being amish and it just kills me that other people my age are getting married and things and here i am liek an eternity behind like the other day i was in the mall parking lot and there was this 40ish couple making out and ive never even kissed someone let alone made out and i just really wanna know what love is i mean is it really too much to ask for to be loved and to be looked at as im someones world and they couldnt imagine a day without me…is it really too mcuh?

I want to feel what love is. I WANT YOU TO SHOOOOOOOOOOW MEEEEEEE. Worst song EVER!

still need to grasp the true meaning of this throughout my life

who being loved is poor?

love has a reason behind the chemistry you are feeling.

would it be pure lust and infactuation if there’s no reason to the chemistry?

http://www.wikihow.com/Know-the-Difference-Between-Love%2C-Infatuation-and-Lust

This is a good article on how to fall out of love with the wrong person so that you can move on to find your perfect love :)

http://www.wikihow.com/Fall-out-of-Love-With-Someone

How to Fall out of Love With Someone
Are you the victim of cruel fate? Does the “perfect” mate think you are just “cool?” Although it might feel like you’ll never find somebody better, there are some ways you can move on…

Steps *
1. *Realize you are worth someone who loves you.
You are worth someone who thinks you are beautiful and awesome. They might say “You are my best friend; I feel like I can talk to you more than anyone else, even my boyfriend/girlfriend.” This is manipulation. So is the look they give you that makes you melt. It’s always flattering to have an admirer, but you deserve better than to just be somebody’s ego boost.

2. See their faults.
Nobody is perfect. The longer you hold onto the idea that this person is perfect, the harder it’ll be to get on with your life. It’s completely possible that you’re idealizing someone just so that you can have a fantasy to hold onto; or you could simply not know the person well enough to have seen their flaws. Either way, accept that this person is not perfect, and definitely not perfect for you—because the perfect person for you would think as highly of you as you do of them.
3. Distance yourself. You won’t want to, but staying close to someone you want but can’t have just isn’t healthy. Don’t tell the person or anyone close to them what you are doing, as they might try to convince you otherwise. Just try to get away for a while. You don’t have to cut the person off completely (although that is an option). Don’t call him/her, don’t go places where you know he/she frequents, and make yourself scarce. Take the time to reflect on your situation and learn more about yourself.
4. Date. While you are distancing yourself from said object of affection, try to date people that you like. Don’t settle for whoever asks you out, or you might end up making someone fall in love with you who you don’t love back! Approach people, try new things. You might want to compare everyone to the object of your affection, and you won’t think anyone measures up. Stop this right now. You know there’s someone better out there. Go find him or her!

5 . Do whatever you can to make you feel better about yourself. Exercise, eat well, take a class, meet people, go to parties, be wild, have fun. Life is too short to spend it pining for someone who doesn’t see you for the great person you are! There are those out there who will.

Tips *
“Settle” is the key word here. You should never want someone to settle for you and that is exactly what would happen if they decided to get with you. They know you, all of the good and maybe even the bad. They know and they don’t want it now. Their loss!

Warnings*
The object of your affection might notice you are distancing yourself from them. They will try to get you to see them more. Say you have been really busy with all of these new activities and you will make some time for them soon. Tell them you care for them, but you have other things to do too. You must have a life separate from theirs.

Things You’ll Need
A positive attitude
The nerve to decline their calls
The realization that you are the most important person in your life

Related wikiHows
How to Get Over a Break Up
How to Know the Difference Between Love, Infatuation and Lust
How to Get Over Your First Love
How to Forget About Your Impossible Crush
How to Determine if the One You Love Loves You

Jon,

Even though if you don’t love me back, I really am here to say that .. I love you. and if you need a reason for that, it is because if i’d never had a crush on you at first, i wouldn’t have gone through all those self realisation i’ve thought through, that, realising that i need a change for the betterment of myself, to become a better person so that one day i can be worthy of a match for someone as beautiful as you. You made me realise that the world isn’t black and white, show me what it is like to be treated by a gentleman of a friend and that someone like you actually exist. taught me that i need to be more realistic, that a “fox shudn’t laugh at a cat’s mistakes”, why you like ur crush and how she changed the way i look at myself by self-reflection, that i shudn’t be so stubborn. that there are alot more guys where you came from.

most importantly you taught me all of this, through my self realisation, while you didn’t even have to say a word.

I love you for a gazillion reasons, from the way you walk and smile to the little flaws that you have with you…more where words can never reach or even comprehend and describe, Even though i have to move on, I still love you for changing me for the better and u’ll always be a cornerstone of my life, big or small.

Dear people. I took the chance to write how i feel about him here instead of burried and forgotten in the pages of my diary for years to come unread and unhelpful as i thought it might benefit ppl who’s also searching for the meaning of love by reflecting on this post.

My situation, although one-sided and unreturned love, is still love as he has changed me for the better. without him i’d still be unaware of reality. but still… no matter how strong the love is felt here…. it is not complete and future is bleak for my love btwn me and him ever growing.

He’s definitely not just an ordinary crush, I think of him even when i’m going out with someone else… and my policy is never to say those 3 words ” i love you” to someone just because i have a bit of chemistry or feeling for them. he’s different.

Sadly, here, i have to stop hurting myself.. i mean.. i love myself and the people who cares about me too. and so here, i have to move on.

A ship should not depend on a single anchor, nor should life on one hope