communicate more effectively

I’m usually very clear about how I feel and what I feel and what I think, but I’m not so clear in communicating my feelings to others.
In a way I’m also shy (although I’m not sure whether I AM shy – because I just don’t want to talk about me and my feeling to everyone) and what annoys me about this is that people automatically seem to think I don’t feel anything because I’m not talking about me all the time.
Hmmmmmmmm.
Anyway, I want to say what I mean… theoretically, it’s pretty easy, no?

Has made me even MORE adamantly pro-choice than before (go fig).
I really am in thrall to the little parasite inside me – s/he’s taken over, and determines when and what I can eat, when I sleep, how often I go to the toilet, even places I can and can’t go, because of my heightened sense of smell!

I can’t imagine being forced to go through this unwillingly – and I seem to have had a fairly mild pregnancy so far in regards to side effects. And the thought of being forced to experience even what I have, after being violated, makes my insides curl up. I think it would classify as a form of torture. :(
Just the thought of it makes me want to cry at how horrible we human beings can be to each other (damn pregnancy hormones).

i need to understand people more often and look at them straight up and say what i mean and mean what i say so basicly improve my communication skills even though i am a big flirt but i mean this in general even when fear is the input.

Part of the problem with improving my communication skills, is that it is difficult to determine if I have improved because many people out there just do not want to communicate about certain issues. It is AMAZING to me that so many people tell me that I am a great listener and good communicator, yet select people (that disagree with me at work) think that I am a terrible communicator.

I still have some work to do, but I need to focus on more specific skills like not speaking too loud when I become angry or frustrated, improving my intuition and showing more empathy. Those certainly will help my communication, but for now at least, the generalized goal is mostly acheived.

This goal is redundant on my list, so I’ll put this as done, even though it really isn’t.

I would like those that have insights for me here on how to communicate more effectively to men—well, in particular my husband.

If anyone has been following my posts, you realize I’m having issues in this area. I’ve been writing a lot. There are 2 forms of communication I like—succinct as well as the telling of stories in some sort of emotionally moving way.

This is what I want:

• Verbal & physical affection that is heartfelt, gentle, sweet, loving, kind
• Passion
• To be verbally & in writing encouraged & supported in my endeavors
• To be protected
• To be pursued
• Spend time with me daily
• Enjoy being with me
• Sex on a regular basis—multiple times daily would be nice, but at least a few times a week, not done as a duty, but out of desire/attraction/love
• Kisses that melt me

So, men/husbands, women/wives, I’d like to understand how to get these things from my husband. What do I need to do, change about myself, communicate verbally, in writing, body language, facial expressions, etc.

I don’t know what the hell my problem is! My communication in meetings with superiors and with my family has been much improved. However, my communications to my staff are not effective. Maybe I should just stop talking.

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http://alternet.org/rights/37924/
I wanted to link this article, because THIS is why I consider myself pro-choice – I don’t know when life begins for sure, and I’d think abortion was more likely to be murder than not.
But I think it is sometimes a terribly difficult decision that means a soul is not forced to endure unnecessary pain – either emotional or physical or mental, and is given another chance at a life that will be better and more beneficial for both it and its parent(s).
As the unwanted child of a 16 and 19 year old, I feel pretty passionate about this – I wasn’t adopted, but it was a close call, and the same can be said of me being aborted. I believe in the constancy of the soul, and I think if I’d been born to a different woman, in different circumstances, my life could have been alot better than it has been. As could have my mother’s, and my father’s.
I don’t think it’s a pat answer to an inconvenience, but I do believe it’s a valid option if the mother chooses it because a child is simply not going to have the possibility of a good life, as outlined in the article.
[Is that clear? Any inconsistencies?]

For expressing my views on abortion.
That was… surprising, given how most people on here seem to treat each other.
Someone else pointed out the discrepancies in what I had stated were my beliefs, and made me realise that I’m not very good at communicating clearly about things that I feel strongly about – I have a wonderful friend on LJ who is a quite staunch conservative American, who has expressed to me that he feels that liberals think with their hearts, conservatives with their heads – I think that conservatives actually tend to think more about themselves, and promoting their friends and families, liberals tend to think in far more abstract terms – the world, cultures as a whole. Both can be unrealistic, close-minded and have their extremist idiots.

But I’d like to be able to express myself clearly, concisely, and cleverly.