have more self confidence

I am who I am. Not the person next door, not my sister, not anyone, but me. I am no more than who I am and I can’t be anything, but myself. I can’t live someone elses life and I can’t pretend I am and live that life. I have to be me and to be me I’m going to have to have confidence in me and be comfortable with myself. I can’t forever hide my faults from people and be a perfect princess. No, I’m not perfect and I make mistakes, but I’m still special. I don’t have to worry about what others think, I’m sick of worrying about it. Trying to be what others always want me to be. If someone can’t accept me than why should I waste my time on them. I should be myself and let people see who I am, faults and all. I can have confidnece in myself and its ok to let myself love me. I don’t have to think about what others think, I can be who I want and for once in my life come out of my shell. I am who I am. Leave it or take it.

Its been hard. I try to psyche myself out and think it is okay to look people in the eye. My boss especially but then something stops me and I go back into cowering. I am always thinking.. “Is there something on my teeth? Should I have waxed my face this week?” and because of this I shy away. I find myself looking in the mirror at my skin, looking at every thing. What I want is to look people in the eye, and keep both my head and shoulders up.

Lately, I have been doubting a lot of my abilities. In high school, I was the over-achiever, but in college, I have experienced a slight identity crisis. Now, all of the confidence that I used to have seems to have disappeared. I am doing very well in my classes; I have no good reason to feel so negative about myself. But when I succeed at something, I just keep thinking about how my classes will just keep getting harder. I can’t stop this cycle of degrading myself.

i want more self confidence because i am very self concious of my body and i dont think im very attractive:[

This is coming along nicely for various reasons. I have left my old life behind, started a university degree and moved house, leaving all my furniture behind. I don’t even own my own bed! But it’s all fantabulous – really. Finally I feel as though I have some control over my own life. I’m still having problems with stuff like presentations, but I’m working on that and am seeing some progress – had to do a whole seminar presentation on how the usefulness of the national census in academic historical research, and didn’t fluff once. Yay me!

because i seriously lack it…

Talll :), skinny :), acne :’(
high school started, kids are cruel
advice?

Its not that I don’t have self-confidence; just in the wrong areas. I tend to sabotage relationships by lacking dating self-confidence even though I have no problem meeting women. My life-long search for more self-confidence is probably also why am an exercise fanatic.

i really want to be confident and people tell me im pretty but i never believe them. im worried though that if i start believing the compliments and start thinking im pretty that i will become full of myself!
how do i find that inbetween?

i want to look at myself in the mirrior and actually smile. i dont want to be jealous of how other people look and i dont want to compare myself to other people anymore. i guess i just got to work on my own body until im actualy happy. but one of my fears is, what if im NEVER happy with my body? =\