Not work out..
6 months ago
I didn’t rsvp “yes” for the book club this month because i wasn’t sure of my daughter’s soccer schedule. I did not read the book. No soccer game and I wish I was going to the book club. Another time.
How to improve my social life
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"I have found that my true happiness is found within the people I surround myself with."
How I did it: I found time for people. I made commitments to them, and kept them. I really listened to what they had to say. The best communicators are great listeners. I also found that my friends didn't appreciate my unloading on them. I realized they were my friends, not my therapist :) I started inviting different friends to the gym with me on set nights. This gave me workout buddies throughout the week, and inspired my friends to get to work out too. I always tried to sit in the hot tubs after, just to chat.
Lessons & tips: A wise friend recently said "It takes two months to build a friendship by becoming interested in them, it takes two years to build a friendship by trying to get them interested in you". Words I try to live by.
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Birthdays...
7 months ago
I’m not so good at this one, but I have a friend who just had one and I need to go out and get her a little something, take her out for brunch. I have already contacted her to try and schedule something, now just need to get the gift!
How's this going?
7 months ago
Yesterday, we went to brunch at a friends’s house – sort of an annual event. We were under a bit of stress with things we needed to do with Darling 2 being home. I need to send my friend a note thanking her for her lovely hospitality.
I’m looking forward to my book club meeting, April 26. Low personal involvement can be liberating.
Flirt is without Internet right now had a wonderful purple, chocolate, flirtini day!
Update
7 months ago
Last week, a couple of things got cancelled. :-( However, I did manage to have dinner with a friend, take dinner to another friends house (she just had a baby), AND go back to visit the mother and baby another time.
This week (so far), I went to a program at the school – dinner prepared and served by the students accompanied my music and a play performed by other students. A delightful evening. I might go to the track meet tomorrow. It just depends.
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I set myself a goal today
8 months ago
to do one new social activity a week. By new I mean something I don’t already do as a matter of course, i.e., church women’s meeting, tacos at the Heidi, dinner at the corner with my neighbor, etc.
However, we do have a new activity at church on Sunday nights (that started when I was in Seattle), that I haven’t gone to yet. So I think that should count as new, and I’m going to plan on going this weekend.
I don’t have any idea what kind of other things I’m going to come up with, my choices are kind of limited here, at least at first thought. It will be a challenge to try to come up with something outside of my “box”.
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9 months ago
I’m really shy, so this makes it difficult to interact with people
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This might seem like a strange goal for me to have
10 months ago
At first I started to adopt the “be more social” goal, then realized that this goal is more in tune with what I need. The problem isn’t being social – I’ve definitely got that one down pat. What I need is to get more of a social life. The introvert side of me (yes, there is one) finds it much to easy to stay hidden away in my house and do my socializing via phone, Internet, etc., or else just poke my head out long enough for people to know I’m alive, rather than getting out and about – socializing in person and having some FUN.
I made a commitment today to myself (and my therapist) that I am going to start doing this more, starting with this weekend. So, either tonight (New Year’s Eve) or some time this weekend I am going to make a point of doing something. We’ll see what I come up with.
What have I done
13 months ago
Bought a book on how to have conversations with anyone.
Accepted some invites
Made plans with my husband’s friend’s girlfriend
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it's going better :)
14 months ago
The only way I can improve it now is if I also improve my time management.
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LA...
14 months ago
Don’t get me wrong, I truly love living in LA. It’s not easy and you have to work hard at everything but it’s definitely worth it. The ocean, the beaches, the mountains, the weather… and so many great things to do.
My favorite thins is to explore LA: find new areas, take photographs, do new things. Of course this is much more fun with friends. I often meet amazing fun and genuine people with whom I have a great time but… here it comes.
The things with LA is that everybody (including me) is working long long hours leaving us with little free time. In our hours off we do bills, groceries, laundry and go to the gym.
So even if we really hit it off with someone chances are you won’t see them more than once a week… except for spouses, bf/gf or roommates. Result is shallow friendship that don’t have a chance to evolve. But if you’re lucky and it does then…
Your friend leaves! Yes, people leave here every single day! This year alone I have had to say goodbye to about 30% of my friends. Europe, SF, NYC, Austin… you name it and one of my friends is there.
So, I am going to not get sad and frustrated over this anymore. There’s a lot to see and even more to do! Who knows who I’ll end up meeting, right?
