get in contact with Bethany about open adoptions

I got the call back from the lady at Bethany and she answered my questions. i feel good with the process so far and she said that i have time, and that it’s rare not to find a family. But i don’t want to pick just any family and i’m sure that most of them are very nice but i want to be picky, i feel like i have the right to be picky about this.
She said that after the baby is born i sign the papers and then i have 7 days to pick a family, have them pick a family, or to decide to keep the baby. I can see the baby as much as i want while i am in the hospital, once i’m discharged the baby stays and i go. the baby goes from the hospital to a family. not an adoptive family but a family that is qualified through bethany that is more like a babysitting for those 7 days. thats what my mom used to do, we would get those newborns to take care of for a while.
so we will take this slow and see how it goes.

Bethany is a Private Christian Adoption Agency. When i was little my mom actually used to do work for bethany, i don’t know what she was officially but we took in foster babies for weeks at a time, i was really little then so my memory of the time concept could be way off. but i have loved babies as long as i can remember and i always wanted to hold and feed those babys. we actually have a few pictures of me sitting on the couch with my little legs crossed and a baby laying over them while i hold it’s bottle. if i can find the picture i’ll get it uploaded here for you it’s very cute.

Anyways so adoption is still a big choice looming over me. I just don’t have the means to take care of a baby right now and i was thinking about going back to school. I haven’t even really lived on my own yet and i am definatly not financially stable. But i have some reserve about giving the baby up because other than money i know that mentally, emotionally and physically i can take care of this baby. But i don’t want it to be raised in the foster care system either. I am going to talk to Bethany and also do a little research on my own to find a family. I would love to find a family/couple willing to have an open adoption, not because i plan to be a burden but because i want to keep contact. If by october or whenever i have this baby i haven’t found a family or couple that i feel good about then i am not going to let it go. If i don’t know with confidence that my baby is leaving the hospital in the arms of new loving parents, i am NOT going to let it flop around the foster care system.

so, don’t worry… i’ll keep you all posted.