be desired

I have many good qualities
I have many good physical aspects to me
I have a charming engaging loving personality
I am attractive inside and out
I have been desired before and i will be desired again

As a goal i think this symbolised that i wanted others approval which is not uncommon but for me not right.
I accept i am desirable as i am – now, not later, as is.
This goal is done – I know i am worthy of being desired and thats the important part.

Because i am worthy of being desired. Because i too have an ego and an element of vanity. Because desire is the beginning the promise of so much more. Because to be desired is in a way a form of power (not to be misused.) Because to invoke desire means i have brought pleasure to someone else. Because to be desired is a silent genuine compliment to who i am.

Having a great personality is one thing. And of course I could have written down that I want people to like me. But I haven’t. Not because I don’t want them to, but because it’s not something I’m insecure about.
Being desired however is another thing. And that’s my goal. Not that I’m working hard to achieve it; somehow I’m hoping it will just come to me one day: the gratifying feeling of being wanted. Badly.
When it happens, I’ll let you know.

When you are no longer seen as desirable what happens? You have a self-esteem melt down!!

Being desirable has been this fantasy of mine, but in reality it’s like being put on a pedestal and to stay desirable you have to be perfect. I am just a normal human, not a geisha or a concubine or a courtesan, and I was running away from that truth trying to maintain perfection. Flaws seem shameful and even worse – I could mold myself to be anything a guy likes no matter how far from the truth it is. I’m sick of trying to be ‘desirable’, it is so degrading to me. If I keep acting like a mere doll I could end up in the wrong hands.

I’ve been relationship free for about 5 months (and sworn off boyfriends until I can mature and reflect on the past I have with the opposite sex) so I finally realized it’s the whole ideaology of being desirable and it seems so friggen 1950’s trophy wife!

Cliche but so true: one day someone will accept me for me, that is why I have to stop trying to be an object of desire and just be me.

Wouldn’t it be nice for someone else to desire you for a change?

..I am who I am. (I hate to sound like Popeye) But it’s the truth. I can’t make ‘being desired’ something I want. When I think of things I want, I think of things that I can make happen. I can’t make others desire me. Either they will or they won’t. As long as I stay true to myself and remind myself that I am a beautiful black woman, it doesn’t too much matter to me what others see.

i dont know why but my lifelong dream is to walk in a room where everyone turns their heads because all the women want to be me and all the men want me. i’d like to hear peole talk about me saying how much they fancy me.
mad eh ??i just like the idea of it