Understand women

I met a woman online. we went out on a date and hit it off, things were great. Got back to her place and it wasn’t long and we started kissing and making out, but it being a wednesday night and having to work the next day it was getting late and i had to get home. I told her i needed to go and she was all over me and said she wanted to have sex. i declined (gasp, i know) but it was for the better. she then told me she had made it easier for me by not wearing any underwear. anyway, needless to say it was difficult to get my ass out of her place before the temptation became too much.

So we started dating, it wasn’t long thereafter that we did finally get to third base.(or whichever base that is)

We recently broke up after 9 months, and when i asked her for a reason, she said that as much as she loves me she just isn’t sexually attracted to me. i was shocked, and wanted to know more to which she replied that initially there was no sexual attraction, but she just went along with it and hoped the sexual desire would manifest later in our relationship.

Is this normal, is this how some women operate? i would have thought that the desire and attraction should be one of the more important aspects in any relationship in order for it to work.

If you try to get inside a womans head you’re gonna lost yourself in there,and when you manage to escape you will have an even bigger dilemma

I tried to understand women (I don’t think that I solved the entire mystery), and came to the conclusion that they want to feel special,they want from us to make them happy ,satisfy every need and make they’re lives interesting..when we stop doing that they dump us.
They treat us like objects.

Why we bother to understand them because they don’t understand themselves.At least a grate majority of them.

I don’t know why this is such a big mystery. Every woman wants something different. Every woman is different. Whats not to understand? It’s like how no 2 men are the same, and every man wants something different.

failed! not gonna bother trying anymore, just appreciate them for the individuals they are hahah

Seriously.

im getting the idea that this is gonna be a SUPER LONG TERM goal, may even have to just give up on this one

well women. . . what to say. Women are graceful, beautiful, thoughtful, sexy, interesting, spontanious, and some what fragile. All these things are why i am attracted to women. now as for women as a whole, i do believe this goal is rather steriotypical. Maybe it should be understand 5 women. Girls you are deap and mysterious. Maybe if i understood you, i wouldnt find you so interesting. . .

No two women are exactly the same, but keep these general things in mind:
- We appreciate attentiveness. Pay attention to little details and remember stuff she does and says. Then do something that shows that you recognize those details. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on a gift for a girl, it just needs to reflect what you know about her.
- Sometimes, we don’t know what we want. Other times, we’re very clear. Pay attention to how decisive she is about something. Let her lead the charge when she clearly wants to lead, and take the lead when she’s conflicted about what to do with her Saturday night.
- Listen and don’t offer advice. We don’t want you to fix things, we want you to listen, be sympathetic and tell us about a time when you felt the exact same way. Only give advice when asked for it. If you feel you must offer advice, at least ask, “is this one of those times when you want me to listen and not give you advice, or can I say something?”
- When you’re in a relationship, ask her, “what’s the most important thing that I don’t understand about you sexually?” And be prepared to respect her answers, even if they seem really critical of you.

Also, go see the Vagina Monologues. It really helps and it’s funnier, sexier and more entertaining that the title would normally suggest to a man.

I want to stop caring so much and be more relaxed about women that I find attractive.