I’m at boarding school and there is this guy that’s annoying me all the time… It’s kind of hard to avoid him because we’re at the same school and because he sends me a lot of texts and messages and calls me a lot. Trying to ignore him just makes it worse—he sends me more texts and annoys me more.
Moreover, he decided to drop out of school and tells me that it’s my fault. All my friends tell me that it’s nothing to do with me and that it’s not my fault and I know that it’s not but I still kind of feel responsible for it and I don’t want him to ruin his life… But it’s his own decision so it’s not my responsibility.
A few days ago, in the middle of Christmas Break, he even went to my dorm on the campus of my high school because it reminded him of me… He’s really annoying and creepy… After that, I told him I was gonna ignore him for the next time, which caused him to send me a loot of texts and messages but after a few days, it kind of stopped which I am really happy about. I don’t know what’s gonna happen when school starts again, though—all I know is that I really want to get rid of this stalker!
How to lose my stalker
How I did it: My stalker was really annoying, so I just decided to stop talking to him entirely. I didn't respond to his messages, or texts, or e-mails anymore - instead, I just pretended he didn't exist. Finally, he understood that he didn't have a chance, and he gave up on me. That definitely changed my life - now, I have more freedom and I am not getting annoyed every day.
Lessons & tips: If there is someone that has been after you for a long time, and that still hasn't given up on you, you should think about whether you really don't want anything to do with that person, or if there is a chance that you actually want to continue hanging out with that person, but that you just don't like the person as much as they like you.
After you have decided this, you have two possibilities:
1. If you decide that you just don't want anything to do with that person at all, you might need to start ignoring them - which might hurt their feelings, but if they just don't stop, then that's how you'll have to do it.
2. The other possibility is that you talk to them about the situation, and that you try to explain to them how you feel. If that doesn't work, you'll have to try the 1. possibility.
Resources: It helped me a lot that my friends were open to talk to me about this whole thing, and that they helped me with advice. This way, I felt like someone understands me, and that I am not left alone with my worries.
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so i used to work at this place called suncoast at the mall, and being in a retail environment, you tend to meet a lot of people. I met this guy one day who was picking up an application and it was dead, so we started talking and found things in common, so i thought you know, hey! ive made a new friend, hes new in town, ill show him around a bit or whatever. BAD IDEA! we got coffee once and he asked me immediately if i wanted to be his girlfriend. Told him no, and then after that i ignored his calls. A couple months later, he gets hired at a store located next door to mine. That SUCKED. Try hiding from someone when the front of your store is nothing but sheets of glass, or when the person stalking you knows exactly where the stickers are located on your car… its not easy. So i told him i was a lesbian thinking that he would leave me alone, but alas, that only made him try harder to get me back to the other team. Finally i had to have a whole lot of friends to tell him to back off. Stalkers are not fun, and as long as they don’t do anything illegal, its very hard to get a restraining order or anything.
