be a better wife and mother

I have been working on this for 10 years and just cant seem to catch my snap. I know what needs to be done I just cant seem to get it all done in one day. I work,cook,clean and take care of our 3 children while the whole time he is in bed asleep not wanting to help me out. Unsure of what to do.

I’ve been working on being more organized around the house and being more understanding of my husband. Also, I’m trying to do some extra things with me son. For instance, we’re taking an online course to learn Esperanto!

Be more patient and play more wet my son.
Be more patient and not selfish wet my husband.

be more present, do more, cook more, help more, be more patient and present

I want to be a better wife so that I can keep my husband. My emotions and hormones are getting in control of things. Me and my husband are 11 years apart. I am 24 and he is 35, We have been married for almost 5 years. I feel that I am always letting him down or nagging on him all the time. I don’t know what to do. Recently I lied to him about going out with a friend of mine because I know that he doesn’t like the guy. I want my husband to be more spontaneous and more sentimental with things. And I know that I should accept him for who is his right now. I really do love him and I don’t want to lose him. I just feel that with the kids we are losing touch sometimes and we never get time to ourself. Please Help.

so I don’t think I can ever mark this accomplished. But I do spend time reading to my son and make time to play with him more. I am working on intensively cleaning the house to keep up on things, being more organized, etc.

I’m going to mark this goal as completed. I want to have two separate goals. Be a better mom and another one “be a better wife” – something similar. I will always be striving to be a better mother, no matter how old my kids are… :)

Plain and simple…I need to follow-through on disciplining the kids. Z. is playing me, knowing if he gets on my nerves, acts-up and wears me down, I’ll eventually give in. I must stand firm! TAKE CHARGE OF OUR HOME, BE IN CONTROL OF OUR HOME, I’M THE CAPTAIN OF THIS VESSEL.

Taking steps to be a better mom.

I guess I didn’t give it that much thought but now realizing the importance.

During our separation, my husband had surgery on his shoulder this week. I “invited” him to come back to our home and recuperate. We all could help him in his recovery. I’m thinking it will be for a week.

My family and a few friends were really surprised that I would do this…I didn’t give it a second thought.

This week, while he is staying here, my boys seem really happy and at peace. Their old routine of watching sport games on T.V. in the evenings is back in place. Having us all sitting down and having dinner together and of course, our routine at bedtime. It is more peaceful again.

I knew that they really did miss their dad being around, it’s a little bit of chaos around here since he left. I failed to realize it was also the simply routine in the evening that they really missed. The conversations and time together meant a lot to them, more than I had realized.

I’m proud of myself, that I am stronger and able to be a “grown up” during our separation. This I believe, is being a better “wife’ and mother.

Being a better wife…hmmm. During our separation, my husband and I are really trying to work on our own issues – we both have made some remarkable changes in our lives. I see how determined he is on having us back together as One. Still a lot of healing needs to be done, but I love the way he speaks to me…it’s to me, not at me. The compliments he gives on how clean and organized our home is. The way I am following up on and following through with things on my post-it notes. The many post-it note scriptures I have on some of our mirrors and cabinets. A daily reminder of how blessed I am and strong I am because of Him, Our Lord.

I am now offering to do his laundry for him. He drops it off on Sundays while spending family-day with us. I had for years put little notes inside his folded laundry. Some sexy, some loving, some funny and some were invitations to…. :) Not sure why I stopped a couple years back, maybe it was pride and a little anger.

I have been putting the little yellow sticky-notes in some of his socks, folded tee-shirts, underwear and his polo shirts. These notes seem to brighten his days. The other day while “visiting” his apartment, I noticed all the yellow-stickies on his bathroom mirror. There must of been about 30 of them from the past four months. He noticed that I saw them, he said “I look at these every day, I am again, reminded what a beautiful, loving wife I had and hope she’ll have me back.”

I was overwhelmed that he didn’t just throw the notes one by one, into the trash can each day he would find one. That is what he did in years past…I’m beginning to feel appreciated, loved and respected again. One step at a time, one day at a time, one post-it note at a time.