marry the man I can't live without

Someone you can not do without is the one you love most.

Next May. No rush (except for the last minute one ;)

It will be a simple, backyard affair I think with all the right people, which isn’t really that many.

Surprisingly, my in-laws (to be) decided to tie their own knot this month after over a decade of being de facto. They are the perfect hand-in-glove couple, and a mischievious couple at that. It’s going to be great, except that it’s a remind that our’s is coming :)

Hope I cure my procrastion goal before the deadline on this one is around the corner…

I’m 19 and really in love. Any pointers?

Conditional upon learning to trust him again since he royally f*ed things up now.

I’ve been broken up with my fiance for 10 months now. I have a totally new boyfriend who I love and want to be with, but I wonder if I’m fantasizing. My new boyfriend I’ve realized lately, isnt that great, and my last boyfriend, sucked too. Actually I’m finding that every person I’ve ever been with has turned out to suck. So my question is does everyone suck? or is it just me ruining all my relationships. I want to be with my current boyfriend, but I think I may have already destroyed in chance at happiness with him. What do I do? He is completely unresponsive to everything.

Before there is to be a formal engagement (an otherwise foregone conclusion), my other-half firmly believes that it is only proper to have the ‘man-to-man’ chat with my Dad to ask for his ‘permission’ first, and that the occasion must be symbolised with the bribery of a bottle of cheap wine :)

The fact that my folks live a state away means this awaits our next visit… again, a question of time and fundage… but hey, you only get to do this once (if you do it right) so there is fun to be had in the planning ;)

I wasn’t really looking for my Mr. Right until a year and a half ago, and bang. I was 27, never really had or wanted a serious boyfriend (I was studying and working, silly me), and when I was ready, we met.

We are going to marry, though there’s a matter of unresolved study (the biggest, baddest, ugliest monkey ever on my back) and then the funds to do so… but it never really was much of a question.

I’ve heard a saying something like: Why would you stay with a person longer than five minutes unless you thought you might marry them?

How true. To the girls out there still looking (or temporarily on a break from it)... love yourself and your life, and know that you will one day meet the one you don’t know that you’re looking for ;)

Ok, so after the whole thing with him, in whom I thought I’d found what I was looking for, I feel further qualifications need to be made.
Interested applicants MUST be willing to care enough about US that if he ever finds that there’s some problem he’s having, with me or with us or whatever, he should BRING IT UP so we can try to solve it TOGETHER. There will be NONE of this “I’m having a problem with us, so I’m going to try to solve it on my own without letting her know there’s a problem, and if I can’t solve it on my own then that means we’re done” bull. Part of what the word “relationship” implies is that problems should be solved together. If you’re too much of a coward to bring up something that you see as an issue to me, I don’t want to deal with you.
Also, I need COMPLETE honesty in my man and in our relationship. If you’re having a problem with me, be honest about it. If I’m doing something that seriously bugs you, be honest. If you suddenly decide you’ve had enough of being a nice, sane guy, and want to try being an asshole for a while, at least do me the favor of being honest with me about why. I don’t want to have to deal with all the shit I’ve been going through ever again.

All this isn’t to say that I’m looking for someone along this line right now. Quite to the contrary, I don’t want to have to deal with guys (in this manner) or relationships or this goal in general for a long while. This is just a small rant. Please excuse the rant.

I have to say it was the smartest thing I have ever done.

I originally had “get married” as a goal, but then I realized, wait a second…I don’t want to marry just anyone...I want to marry a man who’s my confidant, my advocate, my companion, my partner in crime, my advisor, my support, my motivation, my cheering squad, my inspiration; basically, my everything. I want to feel like I’m marrying my best friend. Just getting married isn’t good enough, it’s all about who I’m marrying. Someday…:-)