be a better wife

I haven’t had a fight with my husband in weeks, does that mean I’m done???????

Hes’ happier, I’m happier… I think this all boils down to give and receive. We focus too much one what we want so much we lose sight of what the person we would once do anything for, really wants. Then maybe it just becomes two selfish bickering people.

A little extra effort, omit the nagging, and learn to ignore the little things, and I think it may be the key..

making him feel truely special – as his to me!

I cooked breakfast and went and had breakfast with my husband on his lunch break. He really appreciated that. Then when he got home I made him lunch. Made the bed and picked up the house.

We were doing so well, had a fantastic loving, happy weekend. And then Monday came. So many little things returned, the inconsiderate things that make my blood boil and my eyes fill with tears.

I want to go back to Sunday.

Enough wallowing….how do I make it happen?

Stay positive. Focus on the good things.

Why I love my husband:
1. He is so hard working.
2. He is so loving and generous with the kids.
3. HE gives awesome hugs.
4. He irons his own shirts :)

He is my best friend and I love him more than he will ever understand.

We went out with friends and had a great time. Fun to be out with other people, we normally try to steal time away from the kids with just us. It was great to see him laughing and talking with friends. I almost forgot that side of him.

We have been kissing more and it feels so good!!

He went out last night, which he never does, but I so desperately wanted him to stay home. I sucked it up. I didn’t complain. I kissed him when he came home and told him I loved and missed him.

Everyone needs space, I love mine. But when he goes I feel so needy. Instead of feeling needy, I need to let go.

1. kiss him when he walks in the door
2. kiss him when he leaves in the AM
3. kiss him when we go to bed
4. look into his face and ask how day was, tell him something about mine

do this everyday!

It’s true, I realized this today. I looked in my Bible today and I found 1 Peter 3, and Proverbs.. 31? I think?

Anyway, I was reading it for some guidance on how to be a better wife. My husband and I fight more than we usually do, we used to fight.. never. After three years I’ve gotten lazy.. my husbands used to his submissive housewife, which is everything I am and want to be.

But I’m starting to slip, I realize this now. I yell at him for stupid things like after he works and comes home I yell at him for not taking out the trash, or forgetting to change the litter box. When all day really I have been so busy with the baby in my head- I haven’t done much for him. At all.

And he’s a great dad, and a great husband. I guess it’s time for me to start over and go back from the start.. and even though it’s 6:30 in the morning and I would love to catch some mommy z’s. . . I think for right now I’m just going to start by at least cleaning up the kitchen, at least. It’s not a big thing, but it’s a start…

I’d like to go back to my 1940’s housewife routine, I used to live by the book Fascinating Womanhood. It’s how I was raised, it’s everything I believe in, it’s what made me .. me. It’s just who I am, and I really don’t care anymore how much my life offends other women. I used to get that a lot. I guess that’s partially what made me slip.

I’ll have to find some other ways to make my husband happier.. then I can be happier again too.

I hope that by my wedding I can rock at this whole domesticity thing. At the moment I have nooooo energy to do the things I want to do, which include cooking and cleaning. I want to be a wonderful wife for my lovely partner.