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10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

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DanadanadanaI completed a guided meditation series

It’s an app called Headspace. The guided meditations are about 10 minutes long, and you’re meant to do one a day for 10 days.

It was good. I may go through the cycle again, actually. There are probably infinitely more meditations if I buy a membership, but I will decide on that after I repeat the free stuff :-)

I thought they did a good job of explaining meditation. That it’s not about vigilantly not-thinking (that isn’t relaxing, it’s stressful, and probably impossible for beginners), it’s more like: when a thought appears, you train yourself to accept it, go “Oh.” and don’t follow that train of thought. Just let it pass.

So yeah, more practice will be useful. 15 months ago

DanadanadanaThere is an elliptical machine downstairs...

1st attempt – 4 minutes (LOL)
2nd – 5 minutes
3rd – 7 min (seriously, that’s all it takes for my knees to feel like jelly!)

Apparently I have cartilage issues, so elliptical should be a low impact way to get going. We’ll see. It is definitely boring being on a machine making repetitive motions, which is probably half the reason for the short times, above. Even listening to music doesn’t do it for me really. But the last time, I was listening to an engaging podcast, and it made the time fly much faster. So that’ll be my new trick!

And I’ve been doing the occasional set of 20 pushups. I could/should do them more often – it doesn’t tkae long at all, the problem is just remembering to! I’m gonna go do them right now. 19 months ago

DanadanadanaI tried meditating today.

I only managed about 5 minutes.

And that was after spending 15 minutes avoiding, finding other things to do, distracting myself, etc.

Definitely need to practice more. 3 years ago


my mind.

Feels good.

I was going to write that ‘I am finally emerging from the fog that my mind has been in for soooo long now’, but I’m not sure if I am emerging or just poking my head through to have a quick look around – before darting back down into the fog.

I have decided to apply for jobs in other places, as many other places as it takes. Since making this decision mid-week, I have taken a few positive steps: I did apply for one full time job here (temp), and I decided NOT to apply for a part time one, even though I really like the workplace and colleagues. And I feel guilty about not applying for the part time one, I really do. BUT I have decided not to apply for it, and I have multiple reasons for that decision.

The first one is that it doesn’t fit with my priorities. If it were even 2 months earlier, I would have applied for it, mistakenly thinking that it would be a step in the right direction. But I have learned a few things about how the world works since then, and though I am really disappointed by what i learned, it does make the pieces of the puzzle fit together much better.

I learned that there is no loyalty here. I can show loyalty if I like and it might be generally appreciated, but it will not be rewarded. Therefore I should only do things for this employer that will benefit me in one of the following ways: financially, socially (living in a preferred town where my friends are), and/or building my resume so I can shift my career in a direction I want to go.

Second reason: In the place where I am now (and have been for a year), I don’t have a life. Several acquaintances, but no friends. No one to go do stuff with, except a roommate who I actually need more space away from… Two “ex-whatever” guys who I’m better off without, but that I keep running into. And it’s a really gossipy place, which makes me feel even more inclined to just stay home. This is not good for me. It’s a beautiful town, but it’s not for me.

And the other town, where I’d prefer to live, is a gloomy, ugly town 100km away, but I have no creepy exes there, and lots of supportive friendly people that I used to know in high school, along with a couple mentors and some new people. It’s probably gossipy too, but at least there are some people around whom I feel comfortable, like I can just relax and be ‘me’.

Third reason: I would make less money than I currently do, and the benefits for my resume are only mediocre. I’d rather be somewhere else, working and making progress either in my personal life, on repaying my debts and moving forward in my career.

Also applying for jobs in the far North! Brrrr… Winter adventure :-)

SO glad I am not stuck in this inertia anymore, because that SUCKED. 3 years ago


All I really need to do is ask certain people for references. Then I will be ready to apply for other jobs.

But I am reluctant to ask. WTF is wrong with me…

Frustrated with myself. This is not who I want to be, and this is not how I want to live my life.


1 week later: I did it, asked for the references. So relieved to have that done! 3 years ago

DanadanadanaJust read this question

13. Do You Think You’re Strong?

I would be really curious to know the answer to this one. I love strong people. They have this power to change their life and to create incredible things. What “strong” means to you? It’s a question of force? Or endurance? Of speed? Or intelligence?

It reminded me of this goal. And also twigged something I have been pondering over, mostly subconsciously, for the last few weeks.

A lot of people perceive me as a strong person. Sometimes I get the sense that people are intimidated by me, but I have no idea what that’s about. (It’s not everyone all the time, just sometimes, with some people.)

I don’t look to lead, in fact I generally prefer not to, unless absolutely no-one else will step up and something is getting urgent. I’m not interested in bossing people around, but I have opinions (you don’t need to share my opinions though). But I also do not crave approval. I’m fairly aloof sometimes. Not easily influenced (unless it’s something that doesn’t matter to me, then yeah, whatever!)

I don’t know if any of this equates to strength though. Independence, maybe. Not strength in the way the guy was describing it above.

I think if the power to change one’s life was an indication of strength then, no I guess my strength has been seriously diminished in the past couple years. Compared to strength I have had in the past.

But I have exhibited a new kind of courage this past year. I’m working on some internal changes, but it’s slow going. 3 years ago

DanadanadanaWas at the gym yesterday

- and actually enjoyed it. (Would have enjoyed it more if I hadn’t been wearing jeans and I’d had my ipod.)

So maybe when I get paid I will sign up for a gym membership. 3 years ago


I helped my friend out today by being her yoga student for a teaching evaluation she was getting. In the feedback, the supervisor told my friend “you have to modify differently, she is uber-flexible, but weak” (meaning me).

I thought that was amusing, but true. Especially my arms – strong as cooked spaghetti!

I also learned that I am nearly double-jointed, so I have to learn not to lock my elbows or knees. I hadn’t realized I do that, so I will have to become more aware of it.

It was actually an interesting process. My yoga positions were being ‘criticised’ by two people, but I got some useful feedback out of it. There were a couple other things I became aware of too.

I already knew I was ‘weak’ though, ha ha! 3 years ago

Danadanadana 3 years ago

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