Keep my promises to Myself

really. I don’t think I made that many promises in life. My dad always said, never make a promis unless you know you can keep it. So I kept that thought always and only promised things to people, including myself that I know I could keep. I promise that I will nver put a man before my kids ever again. I promise that I will never put myself in harms way for no good reason. I promise to never take my own life unless I am on my deathbed and in a lot of pain. where do I call the goal complete?

now.

that I would never go out with anybody who has not been out of their last relationship for at least a year. I believe that it is necessary for them to deal with thier baggage and remember who they are. It is a good practice.

I almost feel like I could consider this done. I’m really following through on things I need to do for me, and prioritizing them correctly. I don’t beat myself up for little things, and I’m getting more reasonable with my own commitments to myself. (No more, “Lose 30 lbs in 30 day!” – sometimes I think my subconscious is a TV infomercial!)

But I’m going to leave this on here – and keep it at the top, as a constant reminder to myself.

Maybe once I’ve knocked off a few more of my big goals, I’ll know it’s time to put this one to rest.

I’m still making committments to myself, but trying to really limit them and concentrate on following through. Even with dozens of things I’d love to do, I’m limiting my deepest commitments.

Something I learned from my daughter. If you tell her you’re going to do something, she’ll NEVER let you forget, and every failure is a broken promise. So now I only tell her I will do something or we’ll do something if I know I can keep that promise. I’ll still tell her lot’s of things that I hope we’ll be able to do, and let her know why it’s not a guarantee, but always follow through on the promises.

So now I’m trying to work the same with myself. Lot’s of things I Hope to do, and will if I can, but promises, those are fewer and much more dear. Doing a much better job with these.

I think maybe I’ll just start making some very small, very sincere committments to myself, and follow through on those. Then work up to more and promises made and kept. Don’t beat myself up too bad if I do backslide along the way!

Why is it so easy to break a promise to yourself, when you wouldn’t dream of breaking a promise to somebody else? I’ve got to learn that promises to myself are just as important if not more so!

This is one of those mushy, intangible goals, but I’m determined to work on it anyway. I must remind myself everytime I try to rationalize out of doing something that I’ve made myself a promise. And I don’t break promises. ESPECIALLY not to myself. Not Anymore.