have a healthy relationship

Another thing I need to do. Fix my relationship with my partner. We have issues.

because i am NOT INCAPABLE, and telling myself I am is silly. I’ve got baggage i need to get rid of first.

i just came to the conclusion that have a healthy relationship and have a successful marriage were close enough that i only needed to keep one of them.

to never argue? Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and in that time we’ve only ever had 2 minor arguments – which to some people might appear that we have a perfect relationship but I dont think so. Hes the most laid back person in the world, he never thinks there’s anything wrong, its always me who starts arguments and then end up feeling guilty about it coz its always about petty things…so now I just try and bite my tongue and dont tell him when im annoyed about something. Yet last night I got drunk and sent him a text telling him exactly what I was upset about. Its something really trivial but he took it badly and now we’re not speaking. sigh….I wonder if its just best to shut up and keep the peace or start speaking my mind and telling him exactly how I feel every time theres a tiny little thing that bothers me which is gonna end up in an argument….Im so useless at this whole relationship thing :(

These 2 things have to be the cornerstone to a healthy relationship. No games. No lies. To just be free to say what’s on your mind and not have to worry that it will get turned around and thrown back at you in some way that totally misinterprets what your meant would be nice.

This guy has been so sweet. I’ve been sick (painful root canal) and he has been taking care of me. He took me to the hospital to get pain killers from the emergency room at like 11:30 pm and then the next day took me to the dentist and waited for me and then today he’s going to see his mum and then he’s gonna come back and bring me food :) He made me promise I’d sleep while he was gone cause I was tired and had super bad nausea.

This is only a couple of the things that he’s done… Aww :)

Well I’ve met a REALLY nice guy and things are going well and not too quickly, which is nice for a change. I don’t want to jump into anything to jinx anything.. so yeah.. we’ll see how it goes!

Nope. Not Yet. Tried again, failed again.

This entry will probably be pretty long but if you read it and give your opinion I will greatly appreciate it. The relationship was great for a while and I could not be any happier with the woman I was with. We were set to go to the same college and we had discussed marriage even. She had promised me that no matter what happens she wanted to go to the same college. Well at the very last moment she broke the promise and decided to go to a college that was thousands of miles away. We decided the long distance was probably do-able but this is where everything went wrong. After several months of the relationship she started threatening to break up with me, she would be extremely mad at me if I didn’t call her and was instead studying in the library, and she started to say extremely hurtful things to me. When we were able to see each other though, we were happy. During sophomore year of college, she started to be extremely mean(say I’m just like all her exes, I hate you, you don’t care about me, I thought about breaking up with you, etc) and excluding a wonderful birthday(she came to visit me) we started to want each other to change and we would fight and make each other cry. During the summer we broke up and I figured that was the end of it so I started to try and make myself better by being more social, and I started to get close to this other girl. We nearly had sex, but I decided it wasn’t a good thing to jump into this relationship like this. Well my ex started calling me alot and I decided that we should really give it another try, and she then found out that I was close to this other girl for a while. She starts to say that I cheated on her and it was completely wrong of me to do that. For the next two months I did everything I could to make her happy(take her to nice restaurants, pick her up from work about every day, leave my work to take her to lunch, go to mexico with her when her father died and comforted her the whole time even though I didn’t know spanish and wasn’t able to do anything really fun, took her on lots of dates, bought her a little puppy, etc), I mean I REALLY tried to show her I love her and I care. The summer ended and we gave each other promise rings to be better to each other. Now we are back in this long distance relationship and in less than a week she is questioning if I love her and if I care about her and she doesnt trust me because I had that small relationship with that other girl while we were separated during the summer, and it just hurts me because I gave up my WHOLE summer just to make her happy and I have even been thinking about sending her flowers every month. Last night we started arguing and she kept talking about what happened months ago(excluding completely how much I’ve done for her for two months) and we ended up hanging up on each other and I havent talked to her since. I just dont know what I should think about our relationship. What do you think?

i have broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years.. and it is about time. our relationship has hurt us both emotionally, made us broken inside to the point where we dont care that the other person is crying uncontrollably or is deeply hurt. we have turned bitter and selfish.. and i have been fixated on this idea that we can eventually make it. the optimism dies away albeit right now, i feel like sometimes i could go back to him and we’d try even better now that we know what it’s like to be separated.. but i have to move on. i have to become a better person and i realize now i don’t need another person to do that.