have a healthy relationship

I can’t explain how great it is to be in a healthy relationship. We are both Christian, which helps a lot. Because of our faith we have decided to take sex out of our relationship and I lie to you not, it has made us stronger. I can’t even believe that it’s been 6 months..it seems like we just met yesterday. He truly makes me a better woman. I am more relaxed because of him. I love him very much!

Me and my girl just broke up, but im nto gonna give up on her… i want to spend the rest of my life with her. she is everything to me

I am actually enjoying the moment right now. I don’t know what is going to happen between us, but he makes me feel special. I can be honest with him and that means the world to me. He loves God, which makes things so much easier. The physical connection is OFF THE CHAIN. He loves me: he doesn’t just tell me, he shows me. For that, I love him back. We still have a long way to go, but I’m looking forward to the journey.

I would love to have a healthy relationship, and to keep that healthy relationship. I think I have a lot of learning about how to do this because my past experience has involved me thinking I had a healthy and great relationship and then everything falls apart and tears my heart out.

I’m moving a few things over here for a while.

I would like someone to tell me how to fix a relationship with my partner thinks that I am the one to start every argument. He has not noticed any of the things that I have improved upon in our relationship, and he thinks that he has changed completely, for the better. But when it comes to certain things, he gets upset and blames it on me… I was the one who started it.

We’ve been through absolute hell because we contracted an uncurable new illness that is still under investigation by the CDC. We contracted it through the building we were living in. To make a long story short, it has no doubt put an extreme strain on our relationship, and it is amazing that we are still together.

But what do I do when he thinks he’s always right, and I am always the bad one????

It doesn’t help matters that because of our illness we are indigent and destitute and together in a studio apartment 24/7. We suffer a great deal of debilitating symptoms, and with that comes depression, chronic fatigue, etc. Financial issues are a big problem. Neither of us being able to work is terrible.

I am an artist who has no way to do my art because no supplies and lost everything we owned in the infected apartment building. He’s bettering his life by going to school online… something I urged him to do and I supported him all along. I was there for him through all of the really difficult times in his life, including getting off of prescribed pain meds from a heavy handed doctor (he has a severe back injury).

He never sees the good in me… doesn’t voice it. And he’s really good at picking insults that he knows will stab me in the heart. And then when my reaction is to call him an a-hole or whatever… that’s when he says I’ve caused the argument!!!!

He says he knows that he’s right, and that I am the one who’s all mixed up.

I get the “maybe we shouldn’t be together then” and then he tells me that he loves me and he doesn’t want me to go. And around and around we go….

Help me get out of this vicious cycle. I love him and I know he loves me… We want the relationship to work, but it can’t be happily ever after if we continue fighting all the time!!!

HELLLLLP!

because i am NOT INCAPABLE, and telling myself I am is silly. I’ve got baggage i need to get rid of first.

i just came to the conclusion that have a healthy relationship and have a successful marriage were close enough that i only needed to keep one of them.

to never argue? Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and in that time we’ve only ever had 2 minor arguments – which to some people might appear that we have a perfect relationship but I dont think so. Hes the most laid back person in the world, he never thinks there’s anything wrong, its always me who starts arguments and then end up feeling guilty about it coz its always about petty things…so now I just try and bite my tongue and dont tell him when im annoyed about something. Yet last night I got drunk and sent him a text telling him exactly what I was upset about. Its something really trivial but he took it badly and now we’re not speaking. sigh….I wonder if its just best to shut up and keep the peace or start speaking my mind and telling him exactly how I feel every time theres a tiny little thing that bothers me which is gonna end up in an argument….Im so useless at this whole relationship thing :(

These 2 things have to be the cornerstone to a healthy relationship. No games. No lies. To just be free to say what’s on your mind and not have to worry that it will get turned around and thrown back at you in some way that totally misinterprets what your meant would be nice.