Stop being so negative

i am just 21 , graduate but not confident dont know why.. i was not like before..i wanna be a video editor with a thought i learn editing but what found this is not something for which i m not born, i have lot more talent, working on machine only is not for me … i wanna somthing big big big , position where i am finacialy stable and independent.. trying to change my field wanna go for higher studies but fear of being fail is attacking me..my failmy not too good so dont know how to ask them to support me for higher education..day to day i am getting depressed..

I have decided to go ahead and mark this goal as completed. I still see the negative things, still focus on them at times, but I am so much more positive than I used to be. I believe that my positive times are much greater than the negative ones now, so I’m taking this off.

i want to see the good part of things instead of always seeing the bad. i want to see a full glass.

So I am about to move home and it should be something positive, but as usual I am focusing more on the negative.

The negative part of it is that I will no longer be living with the boyfriend. I love living with him and I am going to miss being with him, falling asleep cuddled up against him, even little things like going grocery shopping for our place. I will be moving back in with my parents, him with his, and even though that is only the next county over, I feel like I am about to say goodbye again and I have had more than enough experience with that. We are supposed to get our own place once we can afford it, but I’m just worried about how long it will take. Hopefully I can find a good full time job, but with him going to school full time, I don’t know. I know I will still get to see him a lot, but it is just different than living together and I am going to miss it and I can just picture myself crying those first few nights of not having him in bed next to me.

Positively this is a good thing because the boyfriend is happy. 5 years in the military and he is getting out and moving home. He will finally be able to spend real time with his family and friends and he is very happy about it. And also, I do look forward to living in my town (I’m definitely not cut out for big city life), having my car and seeing my nieces and even my pets again.

This may sound completely cliche and too senitmental or whatever, but home is with him. I call this apartment home even though I haven’t been here long. I don’t really consider my parents house home. It’s what I know, but it’s not really home to me if that makes any sense.

Anyways, I should be happy about this. There are good and bad things to going back, but I know everything will be alright. I’m worrying and thinking too much, when I should focus on the positive and be happier with it.

I am always so negative. I am no good, I am useless, I’ll fail my course and I’ll never succeed etc. I need to stop thinking negative.

because i’m so negative.

“Why do you always have to be so negative?” He said that to me the last time he was home. I know I’m a negative person sometimes, but I think a lot of the times I simply have no thoughts or really don’t care and that can be taken as negativity even when I don’t mean it to be. But I guess an outside source can let me know how everyone else views me, so I am now going to start working on this.

Everytime one of my friends go into her negative mode, which is often, I immediately point it out brashly and try to get her to stop. I mean, if she isn’t going to stop, I want her to be more positive about herself…love herself for who she is, you know?

It might not be my place…but I’m doing it.

I’ve done so much studying on positive thinking that I find it impossible to stay upset for very long. I am also in a class called DBT which helps with all sorts of emotions and is especially good at dealing with the negative ones. The more I focus and put my energy into activities that help me to reach my goals, the more likely I am to achieve them. The less time I spend on negativity, the more time I have to enjoy life :)

I think you just have to ignore all those negative thoughts. Turn all those “I can’t” to “Why can’t I? Of course I can!” and as lame as it is, just keep thinking on. If you can’t be positive, at least don’t be so negative. It’s the first step.