Allow myself to only be treated well by the people I choose to have friendships and relationships with. If they do not, I need to find the courage to move on without them.

is an ongoing theme in my life at this time. Its ironic that when I first adopted this goal I was with a man and then suddenly I found myself in love with a WOMAN!!!(an equally dysfunctional more than slightly criminal and severely substance abuse addicted woman,, but a woman nonetheless)
and now I’ve got to find the courage to leave THIS BITCH alone…. I recently read a poster that said. “the only consistent feature in all your dissatisfying relationships is you” Scary, but true.

i think this is the hardest goal i’ve ever listed.
i know this is something i need to do and re-evaluate my relationships and friendships with other people.
i need to really understand that something isn’t always better than nothing.
i don’t know why i value having friends, or dating someone. or at least value it enough to put up with the shit i have been putting up with.
is it really better to be lonley and be alone all the time than it is to be with who don’t treat me as they should?
i know the answer – but it’s tough to swallow on the third or fifth or whatever weekend of being alone.

I asked her several times until I gave up. I asked when I made plans with friends. She gave me the “I’m busy” answer. Well if she doesn’t give me the time of day… then I’ll do the same to her. Now I moved on… I still feel bad sometimes and will always wonder “what if”

have courage to have faith
not surrender to fear and desperation
know the difference between fighting for a friendship/relationship and creating drama

were young but want the same things in life, only i’m not aloud to look or talk to anyone, have friends, talk about my past, the only thing i can do is live unwillingly. i want to keep dating him, but i want to be happy, . . please help me.

Relationships are a choice! The moment I realised that, it became easier to recognise seriously toxic relationships for what they are – POISONOUS...

And yes, I am a trusting person. I refuse not to be. Once in a while, though, one should draw one’s armor against the arrows: never attacking, but protecting one’s most vulnerable self…

The decision has been made. The action will be taken.

I have been in a relationship with my bf for 3 years, but I think the end is near. I find it hard to trust someone who lies to me constantly, it breaks my heart. Just last night he made a promise to me that today he broke. How can I go on any longer? I need to find the courage to move on.

uhhh, i always seem to drag the person around, whenever i want to end the friendship.

how to differenciate betweeen people that doesn’t want to know about you and people that is just busy to call you back? i feel there is no law about it… i’m just clueless (and i reckon it’s so difficult to let them go that it’s preferable to think they’re too busy to reply…)

i did this and i swore to myself i’d keep doing it. i wasn’t aware i’d have so many opportunities….

i stopped talking to “my friend.” he was disrespectful and he acted weird. i think it is a pretty big challenge to cut some one off that you have become accustomed to associating with. just making the decision and then going through with it takes effort. this last guy was disrespectful and weird. saddly after i cut him off he decided the best way to handle it was to message me for a month and fabricate crazy excuses in his head for my decision to ditch him like i was attracted to him but wasn’t getting any. (he is not attractive.) Have you ever anything so lame???!!!! cutting him off was a great choice and i am so glad that i made it.

if you have trouble with people in your life this is something you need to do. if letting go is hard it is all the more important. i can see a real difference in my attitude towards relationships since i first started posting on 43things. a lot has changed and accomplishing this particular thing was probably the most crucial.