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How to speak well in public by Benjamin64

"Chatty"

How I did it: The way we see the world is by looking through our eyes and then laying over information from our minds. The trick is to learn that we can control what information gets over lain.

I watched a few psychology videos on YouTube, which helped me understand some underlying issues I didn't really acknowledge before, such as a fear of failure and what to do when you lose your confidence. (cheesy but it worked).

I also actively worked on meeting anyone's eyes and smiling back/acknowledging them, that's at work and out and about.

Lessons & tips:

Feeling uncomfortable, light headed or suddenly thrust into a situation you didn't prepare for.
Concentrate on the soles of your feet, really feel them carrying your weigh and what you can feel. This helps you feel 'grounded', literally.

Getting embarrassed
This is about feeling out of control. Imagine that that 'pressure' you're feeling is going into your body then running out of your feet and into the ground. The more pressure you feel, the fast it drains out. This also relates to reassuring your sense of being grounded above.

Creating a portable comfort zone
When you're in a bar or giving a talk, you feel out of your comfort zone. Imagine that a sphere surrounds you and that people can't help but look at it. Repeat that in your head when you're in one of those situations.

Removing Negative feelings
Self doubt and all those feelings that tell you you can't do something are poison. Begin by thinking back to the worst moment of your life, where you REALLY felt these feelings. Remember how it felt, the sting of it, the negativity you felt. Now imagine that your pushing those feelings into a tiny ball, it's getting smaller and smaller and smaller until it's a tiny ball. Then it's gone.

Now think about your happiest moment when you felt really great about yourself. Remember the warmth you felt, the happiest washing over you. Now imagine your blowing that up, bigger and bigger and bigger. Feel the warm grow and grow and grow.

Practice these steps every day until you've really mastered them. Now in a social or public speaking situation I unconscientious 'crush' any feelings of doubt and feel so much more confident. It's what stage actors and tv people do a lot. Public speaking is about controlling your own emotional state


 

Nov 29, 2008, 06:32AM PST | 0 comments


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    avii_17

    Speak Well in public 13 months ago

    I don’t know why cannot i express myself well to others. Sometimes i really fall short of words. I had this problem when i was small but then i started overcomming this problem but now again its like im losing confidence in myself. I stammer while narrating even a small incidence to anyone and everyone.

    Im completely clueless as to how should i overcome this fear.

    Oct 06, 2008, 05:06AM PDT | 1 cheer | 1 comment


    nvnohi

    Untitled 14 months ago

    Starting with work, so that if I need to give a presentation or whathaveyou I’m not only comfortable but I’m also able to hold the attention of my peers and relay the presented information easily, understandably, succinctly, and effectively. This skill translates beyond work, too – school, activities, etc.

    Sep 14, 2008, 06:43AM PDT | 0 comments


    annekoril

    Untitled 20 months ago

    No matter what language I use, english or my native dialect, I still get tongue tied and scatter-brained. I hope I learn it.

    Mar 11, 2008, 09:14AM PDT | 0 comments


    designium

    Untitled 2 years ago

    Training is everything when you need to speak well in public.

    I would start try to take the confort level of our conversation (e.g when talking to friends) to the public speech level.

    Also, body language is essential while deal with the public. People judge you by what you look like mostly.

    Jul 19, 2007, 01:31PM PDT | 0 comments


    Mirawizad is saying 20 things is enough, is it not?

    Do the Landmark Forum and you'll overcome this fear 2 years ago

    I did it and faced my fear it was AWESOME!!!

    Feb 17, 2007, 11:43PM PST | 0 comments


    ind0lence

    English Class 3 years ago

    I volunteered to present on Wednesday. We were given a project where we had to read an autobiography or memoir, and write a speech as if we were the person telling thier life story.
    I choose Loung Ung, who wrote First They Killed my Father, and Lucky Child. I was able to actually volunteer myself instead pf sitting nervously, hopeing not to be called on. I think I did pretty well and I’m really proud of myself.

    Oct 29, 2006, 08:08PM PST | 0 comments


    OrganizingGuru

    Death vs Public Speaking 3 years ago

    They say (whomever THEY are) that typically humans fear public speaking more than death. I find that amazing. There are few things I love more than speaking to crowds, with the possible exception of doing radio. Learning to speak in public is a valuable business skill and gives you confidence. Definitely worth doing!

    Oct 01, 2006, 10:30PM PDT | 0 comments


    paprgl

    I have joined Toastmasters. 3 years ago

    That’s about all I can add right now. I hope to … ummm… do something creative in this area soon.

    Jun 21, 2006, 06:54PM PDT | 0 comments


    paprgl

    Toastmasters 3 years ago

    I’ve started attending Toastmasters.
    A little worse attendance lately. Worried about the Supreme Court ruling while I’m sitting in a meeting.

    Jun 17, 2006, 01:58PM PDT | 0 comments


    toxicstardust987

    Untitled 3 years ago

    I’m taking a class.

    Apr 21, 2006, 07:34AM PDT | 1 cheer | 0 comments


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