be more diplomatic

I need to work on this really hard. I consider myself somebody very intelligent but when it comes to this, im so stupid, and i admitted it… just too late i guess! I tell anybody the truth on his/her face… and some people know how to deal with this but other not, so i can hurt people, without wanting it :(... and even my closest people… Then other problem is the way i delivery stuff too… that’s what my father tells me so many times everyday… for me is the right way, but it doesnt seems the right way to others. What can i do.. help! :(

or my opinion and rarely think about how harsh it sounds till afterwards! So I must work on this social skill….

A Softer Touch
Apply Gentleness To Everything

Throughout life we must cope with blockages that impede our forward momentum. Whether these obstacles are of a personal, professional, or societal nature, our first instinct may be to push against the obstruction. But the simplest way to alleviate resistance is to approach it gently, with a soft manner and kind intentions. Struggle and strife can find no foothold when confronted with mildness because conflict can only exist when fed by two opposing forces. So many areas of our lives can benefit from the application of gentleness. The beauty of gentleness lies in its multifaceted nature. It is part love, part compassion, part patience, part understanding, and part respect for others. When we move through life gently as a matter of course, we naturally attract these wonderful elements into our lives.

This does not mean that gentle people are by nature passive or meek. Rather, their copious inner power is manifested in their gentleness and their choice to move with the flow of the universe instead of against it. You can make use of gentleness in your own life by applying it in situations where you feel challenged by your circumstances or by people in your environment. As you move forward gently, the energy pervading your life will likely shift and, consequently, the blockages before you will vanish. Cooperation progresses smoothly when approached gently because all parties involved feel confident that their needs will be met. And quarrels are easily quelled with gentleness because the dualistic concepts of losing and winning are made moot by our willingness to exercise infinite patience with those whose values differ from our own.

Gentleness must be practiced, as we are inadvertently encouraged to act competitive in certain phases of our lives. At first, your established habits may make being truly gentle challenging. Yet after a time, if you commit to consciously applying gentleness to all areas of your life, whether by collaborating rather than competing or yielding graciously to the impassable roadblocks in your path in order to seek a new road, you will find that you begin to act gently habitually. Your patterns of thought and behavior become ever more peaceful, and you will discover that you encounter far less impassable resistance on your individual journey.

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Hello Everyone. This is my first day here on 43 things. One of the first thing that came to my mind was that I am not diplomatic whatsoever. My husband just informed me this again today that although my ideas are good, the delievery isn’t. Any ideas on how I can improve?

For the simple reason that most of the people I know can read between the lines and fill in what I’m NOT saying – then translate it for whomever I’m speaking with.
I’ve moved away from classic diplomacy to more of a ‘constructive disagreement’ format, this seems to be working better. People are still aware of my opinion – but not in the harsh, brutal honesty fromat of before.

Does this qualify as diplomacy?

just becouse if a person asks you “how much do you dislike me 1 to 10?” you just can not answer “10” staring into eyes… I did… Maybe it was better aswer 5?