LiveTillYouDie filled with joy
lesetoiles
The most important lesson
Love and respect YOURSELF, be happy with yourself and your own company. When you no longer NEED a partner, that will be the time you are most likely to find the most suitable person.
Jul 31, 2006, 04:31PM
berecca
Love might be unconditional…
however, conditions must be placed on the behaviour of your beloved!
Even though you might love someone, it’s not okay to let them take advantage, or get away with treating you in a less than pleasant manner (and the same goes in reverse).
No matter how much you love someone, as lesetoiles said, you have to love and respect yourself! I found that if I don’t this for myself, it makes it hard for others to follow.
For me this means remembering that I am an individual, with my own thoughts and desires, as well as being part of a couple.
Jul 31, 2006, 07:42PM PDT
Michelle Hefflin
alienem
Always remember…
YOU are number 1. it is so easy to fall in love and get completely lost in it… we must not forget ourselves. also, love shouldn’t be difficult… it should flow naturally…
Aug 17, 2006, 08:13PM PDT
LYRICAL
Go with it…
and realise that the ride is worth the fall.
Aug 21, 2006, 07:05AM PDT
Christine119 is a winning woman
Biggest lesson I’ve learned
Never settle for less, even if you are in love or it’s been a long relationship and you feel comfortable, because if you stay, the one out there who’s really the best for you will never even get the chance.
Aug 21, 2006, 06:28PM PDT
Alkwyn
Swing like Tarzan…
Wait until you find someone more suited for you, before breaking up with your current partner.
Wait until you have a better vine, before letting go of the one you’re swinging on.
I’ve always been searching for ‘the best’ ‘the perfect partner’ etc
What I’ve done recently is end a relationsip with someone very cute, that made me VERY happy…because I wanted to find someone better.
There was nothing wrong, and everything right…I just wanted to ‘upgrade’ because there must be someone more suited for me.
Here it is, and it applies to employment as well:
Wait until you’ve found someone a lot better than your partner before you consider ending your current relationship. Be direct and act with integrity.
Instead of breaking up with someone and then searching, because you’re far more attractive to potential mates when you’ve got a partner.
Just don’t cheat on them, once you know you’d prefer to be with someone else you’ve met, do it quickly and be honest.
Keep looking for your perfect partner, but wait until you’ve got your new computer before throwing the old one out.
&
Be the first to end a relationship,
I don’t see anyone falling if they do this- if it’s going great then your partner isn’t going to break up with you (rare) and if it isn’t then what are you doing with them?
Even though you don’t need a partner,
it sure beats being single.
Do you know how GOOD women smell?!
(hair especially)
(and possibly Men if you’re a Woman..I don’t know if it works the other way)
I wouldn’t want to go a week without having someone to hug, smell and feed breakfast to every morning…
(Teasing with each spoonful of course…never knows when she’s going to get the next one).
Here’s a quote to finish:
(something I said to a friend on a packed bus).
“I broke up with her to find someone better, kinda regretting it now…
she smelled SOOOOOOO good” (very loudly).
Everyone on the bus had big grins on their faces immediately after I said that…
good times.
Aug 23, 2006, 05:03AM PDT
catty259
Love is riding like a hillbilly
When I was 12, I always remarked to my family:
“kill me if I ever ride around like a hillbilly. Sitting next to my boyfriend on his truck seat right next to him, when there is a perfectly fine spacious seat next to the window. Those people look so stupid.”
I said that to my aunt one day. And she said, “Ya know what kiddo, one day, you’ll be riding around like that, and not think that you’re acting like a hillbilly. You’re just in love, and want to be as close as possible to him.”
It’s taken 13 years, and several boyfriends, but I discovered that I am hillbilly. You can never be close enough when its right.
Sep 07, 2006, 10:40PM PDT
let’s do the time warp again
you’re great
as you are.
dont change who you are for anyone, no matter who they are. you’re amazing/great/fabulous as you are, the way that you are. &dont stay w/ someone who does not like you as is, who doesnt find you beautiful/cute/whatever as is.
Dec 08, 10:37AM PST
rebeccahooperthe whole thing about letting love go and if it comes back, it’s yours.
so true. sometimes you need to let go…give people their space (or yours) and give some time to grow. if its meant to be, you’ll grow back to one another. :)
Dec 10, 02:58PM PST
Fereshteh, who is relaxing… RELAXING I say! o_O
Is it too late?
This is such a wonderful goal… is it still ok to post a reply to this? What a wonderful question to throw to the world, and see and cherish all of the many different responses. =)
This was my 10th Holiday season I have spent with my husband… Sitting with my four beautiful children (and one who is not my own but I have been doing my best to take in and care for), attempting to explain to them my view on the love of the season, I found myself thinking about this quite a bit. What can I teach them about love? Are there even words for it?
I have been through a “perfect” turned very-broken marriage to find myself here at this point, where my relationship with my husband is repaired (and though there are difficult times, it is stronger for the breaks it suffered), and much better than it was when we thought it was “perfect”… Seeking perfection in anything usually leads to trouble, and always leads to disappointment (no human, just as no love, is “perfect”).
I have been a Mom since I was 17, and I have known sacrifice as well as triumph. I have been in love more than once (more than three times actually) and came to realize that each love was different and wonderful, and each had a time that it needed to be shared and a time to move on and let go. I have seen the passion I share with my husband go from a roaring fire to a comfortable heat, whereas my love for him could burn down the world. I have been everything and nothing to someone special, and I have realized that I am happiest being me. So… what is the #1 thing I lave learnt from this..?
The most important thing I have ever learnt about love – any love – is that it is never what you expect it to be.
When you expect it to be bitter, is is sweet. When you expect it to be painful, it is the deepest comfort you will know. If you expect it to be perfect, you will find that it is not. If you expect it to be happiness, it will bring sorrow; however when you are expecting sorrow, you will find happiness. When you expect that the love you will share will be with that “perfect someone”, it will instead be with that someone who is only human, imperfections and all, and this will only cause your love to grow. When you expect that it is easy, it will be difficult; yet when you expect it to be difficult you will be amazed at how easy it truly is. When you expect that it is the only true love you will ever find (present or past tense), you will find that it is not; and yet when you expect there to be no possible way to narrow it down and choose the strongest love, it will happen on it’s own.
When you expect that you have finally understood all there is to know and feel and cherish about love, you will find that you are only just beginning. =)
♡
::hugs::
Fereshteh
rouenpucelle survived computer withdrawal! (but the addiction remains)
here’s something I’ve learned:
love seems to involve a lot of letting go when you don’t really want to and not letting go when you really want to.
Jan 13, 11:55PM PST
raindropsonrooftops
Are you still looking?
If you are, here’s mine. I’m afraid it doesn’t sound quite as romantic as some, but it’s just what I’ve found.
Don’t be afraid to express yourself.
People assume that when you’re in love, it’s perfect, magical and amazing all the time, when it’s just not. Coming out and saying that they’re annoying you when they are or letting them know when something they meant as a joke offended you in the first place is a lot better than leaving it alone to build up inside you.
Arguments are sometimes necessary, sad but true. It’s better to speak your mind then move on, than to quietly agree and let your anger build.
This doesn’t mean that it’s not love, or that you should question the relationship, it means that it’s real life! Enjoy the fact that you’re comfortable enough around them and self-confident enough to speak your mind.
Good luck with this goal – I think it’s a really good idea.
Jan 15, 10:50AM PST
audtabulous
share a story is what I meant :)
The most important lesson I’ve learned about love is something that my mentor told me a couple of years ago. She said “before you can be in a loving, committed relationship, you must first love yourself and be committed to yourself.” When she said this, I kind of shrugged it off, but I’ve realized more and more this year that it is very true. For all I know, you’ve gotten 42 other replies exactly like this one, but if not then I hope that someone can benefit from this. Strong women are the most beautiful thing in the world, and men that realize that are definately worth the time to take on. When you love yourself, regardless of whether or not you have a man, you can be completely happy.
So that’s my story. :)
This is a great goal by the way…
Amor
Auds
twishie
I want to help out too!
Here’s my lesson in love:
I got this from M. Scott Peck’s The Road Less Travelled book. Though I never understoon what it meant until I went through it…
Lesson#1: Love is not a feeling, its a choice. – You will always find someone better than your current partner. Its your choice to stick with them and make the relationship work.
Lesson#2: We dont stay with someone because they make us a whole person. We need to be whole ourselves in order for us to give ourselves totally to someone else.
Lesson#3: Love, Trust and Communication are the 3 foundations of a lasting relationship. You cannot last if one is missing.
Jan 17, 10:47PM PST
TsunamiPearl
Fighting For LOVE : the most important thing — 6 months ago
I have discovered that fighting for love is one of the most important things.
When I fight for my own self love, I negotiate on my own behalf, tell the truth about my own needs, and I am honest with a partner.
If I do not Fight for my own love, then I will end up fighting with them about it , and its much harder to negotiate, when I have not been real with them—- In order to negotiate it is easier to do when I feel safe. If i am not honest, then I am not trusting the other person. If I am not honest I am not safe.
One of the things we will do with a friend, is we will risk uncomfortable feelings and anger to say, hey why did you do that? We are trusting them to work it out with us,because we trust that the friendship will hold up, because we care about each other… Think of a friend… YOu have probably shared a lot, and had disagreements.
Seems like the more attached we are romantically, the less we may be willing to risk. BUt in order to truly love, not just posess another person, we need to risk. To fight for love.
Its in going through those times we can get closer by discussion and compassion…
I know this by leaving relationships, and seeing that I was unwilling to fight for love by not calling a partner on his krap, not making my needs important, and leaving when I thought the other person could not or would not hear my feelings.
None of those things were true. Although these men are now my friends, I have missed the possibility of deeper relationship through partnership with any of them. My actions were not wise actions, I am forgiving myself, and I am dedicated to practicing how to fight for love.Not nasty fighting, just taking a stand…
and supporting others in doing the same.
Now that I know this, I will NEVER go back to the old way that gave me those results…and I will find the real thing.
good luck. its the best thing one can do…
Jan 19, 12:00AM PST
Morgaine will not fear her destinyThe three most important things I’ve learned about love so far are:
1. Unless you learn to love yourself or at least like who you are, you’re going to have a hard time being loved by anyone else. A lot of this is due to the fact that when we’re negative about ourselves we insult those that love us when we say things like we’re “unworthy”, “unlovable”, or “worthless”. We aren’t and it’s hurtful if we say these things because it implies that somehow they are foolish for loving us.
2. There can be “true love” but we shouldn’t limit ourselves to ‘one true love”. The “true” part of love comes from both parties in a relationship working together to make things work and last, not from some unknown cosmic force. Our fates are up to us to decide and shouldn’t be left to chance.
3. Love can come from out of nowhere and hit you when you least expect it. There may be times in life where we feel as if we’ll never love again and then it will suddenly hit you like an oncoming freight train. It leaves you dazed, confused, maybe even frightened, but it does happen. We can deny it and turn away from it or we can try our best to embrace it or at the very least learn from it.
Jan 21, 11:48PM PST
stinachristinathrough my trials with love I have realized that you cannot force it on another person – and that may hurt the most out of anything. loving another person and being in love requires someone to love you the same – when you have found someone who is as psyched to be with you as you are them, thats love, until then it is just . . . well it’s whatever you need to fill the void for that period of time. Caring about someone and being in love are two COMPLETELY different things.
Cared about people – 3
Loved – 0
hopefully someday I will get love.
sarolite
What I’ve learned about love
I firmly believe that you cannot be in love if you’ve never had a disagreement. The perfect person who always agrees with you on everything is a liar. Worse than that, they’re unhappy, or you’re unhappy if you’re the one doing the agreeing. Disagreeing about something, arguing (I won’t call it “fighting”) about it, then coming to a resolution is an important life skill for couples. If you’ve never had an argument, you’re not a good couple.
Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you have to share your blanket. Unless we’re at a hotel, my husband and I sleep with separate blankets. No uncovering each other at night! Also, if he goes to bed earlier than usual, he needs to get up early, he’s not feeling well, or I’m not tired enough to sleep yet, I sleep on the couch. That doesn’t mean we’re not in love, it means that I love him enough to let him get his sleep because that’s what’s best for him.
Being in love absolutely means trusting your partner. My husband goes to meetings of local Linux user groups one to three times per week. Sometimes he forgets about a meeting until that day, and asks if it’s okay for him to go. I’ve never asked him not to, and I’ve never thought he was somewhere else. I want him to enjoy his time with his friends, and I’m comfortable using that time to do what I want to do.
Speaking of which, that’s another thing that I’ve learned about love: if you don’t spend every waking moment with each other, that doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It means that when you are together, it’s that much more special. Sometimes my husband and I are each on our laptops in the living room watching tv. I think that’s cool, we each get to do things that we want to do online. Sometimes we IM each other links to things we’re looking at. =)
Hope that helps!
Jan 25, 10:58AM PST
Nathan Howe is enjoying the brand new 2007
The most important.
Love is the type of topic on which too much has been written and spoken, and some of those expressions have been so effective that calling one lesson “most important” is presumptuous. I will not do it.
One defining moment in the development of my love for the woman who would be my beautiful wife came after I had become accustomed to saying “I love you.” One particular evening, I realized that I loved this girl so much that I wanted her to have what would make her completely happy, even if that happy picture did not include me.
Fortunately, she kept me. But if she would have been happier with somebody else, I would have been content because of the need I felt for her welfare.
To me, love is not saying “I need you.” Love is saying “I want every good thing for you. No matter what.”
Jan 25, 09:50PM PST
Kaz Congratulates Oscar Nominees
Never believe the movies — 6 months ago
Thats the best thing I could say. Too many people fall into the “perfect partner” trap, thinking its about looks, money, or public approval. This is your partner, not the next president!!
Love is beling able to fight, get mad, cry, scream and then deal with it together. Love is hard, easy, and confusing.
Love, real love, is a living thing that needs to be fed, nurtured and it will grow bigger and stronger each day.
Cliches aside
Drop every expectation you have, you will never find someone to live up to them. You will be miserable. Then, when you dont expect it, you fall for the person who best knows how to make you smile.
Jan 22, 02:24PM PST
LisaJane
Trust me on this one
I have recently come out of a long committed relationship and the most important thing I have learned is trust. Trust is important in all relationships, romantic or not, but especially important when it concerns love.
Can you trust the person completely? Could you tell them anything, your deepest secrets and know they will not think any less of you? Can you trust them with your life, mind, body and soul?
If the answer’s are yes then do, it will only make your connection stronger.
If the answer is no then should you really trust them with your heart?
Jan 30, 06:40AM PST
NEEDCheese
Life isn’t scripted — 5 months ago
I agree with the last entry. Know thyself and persue happyness. I also believe you don’t know what you truely want until you get it. No matter what is being saut after, what we want is different from what we need.
Jan 28, 03:31PM PST
Suzi_1
Use it or LOSE it !
Thats the lesson i learned enjoy every moment of total happiness and bliss with the feeling of being invinceble Oh its just awsome !
After that comes complacency and taking for granted.
After that boredom… and worse … u lose it !
So keep it alive every day as the day u first met … re-affirm your love everyday and NEVER EVER sleep on an argument nor PART company on one either u never know what’s next u may not be alive to correct it the next moment so …
‘Live each day as if it were your last’ LOVE….. LOVE…. LOVE…. N MORE LOVE to your partner over n over again because when its gone its gone n no matter what u do the magic seems to dissapear never to return ever again… so love passionately and forever.
Never take each other for granted because the moment one feels used the hurt sets in and NEVER EVER ALLOW doubt or hurt to replace your love nip it in the bud only LOVE should live in your heart.
God Bless u all with love and unity ! ; )
Jan 28, 05:54PM PST
zhealdo?
bravenewlinda
your worth
know your worth.. love is a great gift. don’t waste it on someone calloused to what you’re offering. when things get really bad.. and it’s very obvious to an objective rational mind that you are not recognized, cared for, or appreciated… love yourself enough to walk away. the longer you’re in an unhealthy, toxic relationship, the more damage you do to yourself and the more repairing and healing you have to do to even be capable of being in a healthy relationship next time.
Feb 03, 10:59AM PST
calamar
trial and error
my own wisdom (snicker) on the subject
is that if you’re not happy it’s not love…
and sometimes it doesn’t matter if you love them or how much you love them, if they don’t love you it will never be worth it and it wont get better, this isn’t meant to be cynical, the optimism is found in leaving.
and how to see if they love you or not, since ones own love often leads to love-blindness. if they make you feel like crap for no reason or don’t cherish you or put you down they don’t love you (and are fools) if they find new ways to love you that you didn’t think were possible, if they find new things to love about you all the time then it’s a good shot that they love you.
i didn’t mean to write so much and i could go on and on, you’re right LTYD, very complicated…
Feb 04, 11:15AM PST
hmmmm
that’s harder to say
do you leave at the first sign of trouble
or wait until you self-confidence is worn away.
i don’t know, i just don’t know
i say it’s best to try
if you really want to
(rather than from guilt or obligation or niceness)
but to make sure you leave while you still can
if it starts to get to the point where
you lose hope that leaving will
even make a difference
or you feel trapped
it’s time to go
(all opinions above based on my own idiotic experience, for the love of god don’t try this at home :)
Feb 16, 10:19PM PST
settling
is for dust
Feb 16, 10:12PM PST
martinus
my lesson
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.
Feb 12, 02:20PM PST
peaceandlove07LOVE IS NO JOKE…....
I THINK WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM MY EXPERIENCES AND OTHERS AROUND ME IS THAT LOVE IS NOT A JOKE. LOVE IS MADE UP OF MANY IMPORTANT ELEMENTS. JUST LIKE A CHILD LOVE HAS TO BE NURTURED. IT IS A 50 50 ORDEAL. THE WORDS I LOVE YOU ARE THROWN AROUND AND NOT REALLY MEANT NOWADAYS. FOR ME IT HAS TO START OFF WITH I LIKE YOU, THEN I CARE ABOUT YOU, THEN AT THE END I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU IS SO POWERFUL. THERE HAS BEEN GUYS IN MY LIFE THAT HAVE SAID I LOVE YOU SO QUICKLY AND IT IS ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE FOR THEM TO LOVE ME WHEN THEY HAVE NOT TRULY KNOWN ME. THERE HAS BEEN TWO GUYS IN MY LIFE WHO I HAVE TRULY CARED ABOUT AND I DID NOT TELL THEM HOW I FELT. TO THOSE THAT SAID THEY LOVED ME, I SAID IT BACK (ALTHOUGH I DID NOT FEEL THE SAME WAY). I BELIEVE THE REASON I SAID IT BACK WAS BECAUSE I WAS SCARED. I HAVE TO ADMIT I HAVE NOT BEEN IN LOVE. I HAVE GROWN TO CARE ALOT FOR TWO GUYS BUT I CAN’T SAY I LOVED THEM. FOR ME ROMANCE PLAYS SUCH A HUGE ROLE IN LOVE. I EXPRESS MYSELF MUCH BETTER WRITING THE WORDS ON PAPER, EMAIL, ETC. SO I WRITE MY FRIENDS LETTERS AND MESSAGES ETC. GUYS I HAVE MET DO NOT LIKE THAT. I’M NOT ASKING FOR SAPPY LOVE NOTES OF TOGETHER FOREVER, I’M LOOKING FOR REASSURANCE OF AFFECTIONS. NEVER HAD A SONG DEDICATED TO ME, AND I JUST DON’T WANT SOME RANDOM SONG, I WANT A MEANINGFUL SONG. A SONG WHERE THE WORDS REACH OUT AND TOUCH MY HEART. ROMANCE IS SO IMPORTANT FOR ME, I HAVE YET TO FIND A GUY WHO WRITES ME NOTES OR DEDICATES ME A SONG, AND I DON’T WANT TO HAVE TO TELL THEM WRITE ME A NOTE OR DEDICATE ME A SONG I WANT THEM TO FEEL IT FROM THEIR HEART. WOW I COULD GO ON AND ON FOREVER ON THIS TOPIC….. BUT I SEE IT LIKE THIS PART OF A SONG…..
We might kiss when we are alone
When nobody’s watching
We might take it home
We might make out when nobody’s there
It’s not that we’re scared
It’s just that it’s delicate.
THIS IS A PART OF A SONG I REALLY LIKE IT IS CALLED DELICATE IT IS FROM DAMIEN RICE. YES FOR ME LOVE IS DELICATE IT IS SOMETHING EXTREMELY BEAUTIFUL BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE. IT IS NO JOKE.
roslyn43
All I know.
Love everybody in the world, with everything you have, every moment of your life.
Feb 16, 05:12AM PST
HoldingAStar2
What I’ve learned (the hard way)
ALWAYS be honest and true, and SOMETIMES it will pay off. Seriously, sometimes it is hard to be 100% honest when someone asks you a question you KNOW they don’t want the answer to. So be tactful, sweet and honest.
Faithfulness is the one key thing that you can’t screw up and expect everything to be fine. I’ve been on both sides of cheating and there is no way back to normal afterwards, I don’t care how forgiving you (or your partner) is, there is a break in trust and without trust you have nothing.
So honesty, faithfulness and trust are the 3 things I would submit to the most important lessons I have ever learned (and continue to re-learn) about love.
Best of luck to you! LOVE is fabulous!
Mar 03, 02:11PM PST
Scarletandmustard
Discussed — 4 months ago
So Col Mustard and I did discuss this re whether we have any joint resonse re lessons learnt. The thing that both of us did come up with was that it comes unexpectedly and when you are not looking for it. This of course is a killer if what you want is love. However you have to practice the mental trick of going with the flow and just not stressing about it.
From our joint perspective neither of us were looking for love and therefore I suppose were prime candidates to find it!
Ms Scarlet
Feb 25, 04:41AM PST
mermaid53
Love
Love IS Blind
Love isn’t Love till you give it away for then it will come back to you one day.
Love makes one do crazy things but it feels wonderful.
All we need is love, love. Love is ALL
we need. “The Beatles”
Mar 14, 07:29PM PDT
vallari
Here’s mine=)
My lesson in love so far has been acceptance. Can I truly accept everything about this person? Not love everything, not even like everything, but accept everything.
As in there is nothing you dislike about them to the point where you want to change it-or you try to get them to change it.
I think it’s a trial and error process that is individual to everyone based on what they can deal with and what they can’t. I think it’s also a form of mature love that realistically accesses the relationship without judgements or sacrafices.
Much much luck on this and great goal! I loved going through and reading what others had to say.
Mar 18, 11:02PM PDT
Librarian
The most important lesson I learned about love
When I was in my late twenties and my first marriage was falling apart, I also happened to be taking a night class called The Art of the Essay that drew almost all women. One night, the only guys were absent and we got to talking about men during the break.
It turned out everyone in the room had been divorced or was getting divorced or was going through a nasty break-up after expectations of marriage. Except one woman who had been happily married for twenty years. Naturally, we asked her secret. It was: pick the right guy.
Having since picked the right guy, I think that really is my most important lesson about love.
Apr 15, 07:18AM PDT
monkeymig69
Lessons in love
I think I need lessons in how to use 43 things, I had a hard time trying to add an entry :)
For me, the most important thing in a relationship is to keep putting it there. Don’t take what you’ve got forgranted, you have to renew, don’t stop saying you love them, keep up the surprises, the flowers, a relationship is a continual work-in-progress.
Good goal.
May 20, 01:39AM PDT
paisleypaige
Heads or Tails (The Coin)
I have learnt through my past relationships that I had to love myself first before anyone could ever truly love me. I learnt that never, ever take your love ones concerns for granted, listen very carefully and loving a person is not just loving the good side but loving the bad, the whole person, not just one side of the coin because people are not perfect.
May 20, 03:45PM PDT
himinmyheart5
lessons in love
there are many lessons in love but the most important lesson i have learned is that take no love for granted but remember that you only deserve the best and if hes not treating you what you deserve than he is not even worth it because there are many other people out there that are willing to treat you as what you deserve, but thats why you should always treat people the way you want to be treated and treat them as what the deserve as well. well i just thought i would try and help you out so you could reach your goal sry if it didnt help any. Hope you reach it!!!
Jun 06, 11:06AM PDT
Webgurl
Great advice
I completely concur. It hurts to move on, but if they don’t love you, then don’t waste any more time with them. They may be a great person, but don’t settle for anything less than Love.
Feb 08, 02:40PM PST
stormluvin
Love
Unless it’s your first love, you can never experience love without leaving your broken heart behind.
Aug 05, 11:03PM PDT
Vandalay
Three Left?
I’ve always thought a lot about love, I guess that’s why i haven’t loved so much :_( Nah, just joking. I’ve had several experiences that have influenced me and the way I feel love, different kinds of love with differents things to learn… Right now I’m in a moment in which I think that loving is about will, that in any “true” love, in any real experience you have to put energy that, ideally, is going to be sent back (those are the ones which are REALLY worth the effort), it’s a feedback of energy that’s going to renew the relationship and keep it fresh, clean. There are always troubles and misunderstoods, but as long as the principle of the relationship is this, everything can be worked out. I don’t mean by these words that only long-term relationships are true, real love experiences. I think that every kind of relationship has a lot to offer to a person, wether it’s a good experience and you enjoy it till it lasts, or if it’s something you regret of doing. In each case yo have something new to learn, or some old truth you had to re-learn. The true things about love are the same as for life: Flow! Live the Present! Enjoy every Moment! Don’t force yourself to anything you don’t feel like doing! At the moment I prefer to regret for what I’ve done, instead of regretting what I haven’t done…
Was it too long? Hope it helps!
Aug 07, 07:46AM PDT
Katie xx
Love
as it is is a lesson itself. :)
Aug 24, 04:12PM PDT
verbalfire
Maybe not the most important, just most recent:
No matter how long you have loved the one you are with, you have known yourself (and hopefully loved yourself) longer. Don’t let love make you ignore the signals your gut gives you. There can’t be one liar in a relationship. If someone is successful lying to you, it is only because you are lying to yourself. Inside you know the truth, even if you don’t know the true story, so you lie to yourself and swallow it down. When you can’t lie to yourself anymore, there only remains one liar, so the relationship is over. And finally, when it is over, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE, it is over.
Sep 12, 12:24PM PDT
