I’m always so negative i am the king of pessimism. help 4 years ago
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How I did it: First off, I am not completely closing this goal out. However, last night I was reading my list of goals to my boyfriend, and when I reached this one, "Not be so Negative", he laughed. Naturally, I was slightly offended at the snicker and asked him why the laugh. He pointed out that this goal in itself is kind of negative, and suggested that I change it to something like "Be More Positive" instead. Point taken, so here I am, closing out this negative thought and adding a more positive spin to it in my list of goals. Read how I did it… 5 years ago
because all I have done is think negatively most of my teen life and it’s a bad habit to get out of. I’m definitely a lot more positive than I used to be. :) Thank goodness for the Lord :). 5 years ago
I don’t like to be around people who are always negative, but I’m afraid that I’m turning into one of those people! I am determined to find something good in everyone and every day. 5 years ago
I went to the doctor and talked about medication. I think that anxiety was getting the best of me, and I was looking for the negative in everything. Since starting the meds, my outlook has become somewhat more positive. We’ll see how things turn out in the next few weeks. 6 years ago
to not feel so negative about life when you feel completely taken advantage of. And right now, I do. (I am going to beg of my readers not to offer advice, because believe me, I’ve heard it all, and more than likely, I’ve tried it. I’m just venting and sorting out my thoughts.) See, my family, or should I say, my husband, lives in the 1950’s. That’s how he was raised. June Cleaver, in her pearls and heels, tends to the children and the house, and makes a magnificent meal that’s on the table when the husband gets home from work. That was his mom. And since I’m a stay-at-home mom (a term I use loosely, since I work 20 hours a week), he honestly believes that since I work less hours than him, the other 20 hours not spent at work are to be spent tending to the household chores. (Which, with 5 people in the family, takes longer than 20 hours a week). In the home he was raised in, his mom did everything dealing with cooking, cleaning, tending to the kids, taking them to their sporting events etc, and his dad worked and played softball. And that is exactly how my husband feels like our lives should be. His mom never objected to this arrangement, so imagine his shock when I objected. I lived with my dad and my stepmom. My dad did just as much, if not more, of the housework than my stepmom, even when he worked 50 hours a week and she didn’t work at all. He helped with dinner, and we all did the dishes. We all helped clean up the house. On Saturdays, we all did the dusting, sweeping, vacuuming, mopping and windexing. When there was a load of laundry to fold, we all helped fold it and put it away. That’s how I was raised, and that’s how I’m trying to raise my kids, but it’s difficult trying to teach your family this is the way it should be, when your husband does not feel like it’s his duty to do anything around the house, solely because he works more. We’ve butted heads about it over and over again. We’ve discussed until I’m blue in the face. I’ve explained, cried, begged and pleaded for him to listen. He doesn’t relent, and I feel taken advantage of. Some days, I feel like I’m drowning in housework. I’ve made chore lists for the kids (which I’m resuming as of today) to try and teach them that I’m not the only person capable of cleaning up. But still, how is one supposed to feel happy and positive about life when they feel like they spend their whole life being the maid, cook and chauffeur, while the other spouse gets to do as he pleases? 6 years ago
Part of the problem I have with my negativity is the fact that I don’t always appreciate what I have. I focus on what I don’t have, and wow that makes me sound selfish. Like, with me being a stay-at-home mom. I focus on the fact that I feel secluded from my friends and I don’t have co-workers to socialize with, instead of the fact that I’m saving so much in daycare costs and I get to RAISE MY KIDS. (Note: I have nothing against working moms. I worked full-time until my oldest was
2 1/2). For my bake sale this past weekend, I kept thinking how I didn’t meet my goal of $500, or how so-and-so didn’t show up to buy anything, instead of thinking of the $230 I DID make, and of the friends and family who DID come out of their way to buy something, or bake something for me to sell. 6 years ago
I’ve done a lot of searching, and I’ve come to realize how negative I can be. I struggle to think of anything positive in any situation. I’ll give you 1,000 reasons why I can’t, but not one reason why I can. I’m afraid my negative attitude will rub off on the kids, too.
My first thing I will do is to think about one positive thing about my day. Every day. Perhaps even writing it down, so I can see why every day doesn’t suck.
Today: Arissa and I played tea party. And I got 2 loads of laundry done. 6 years ago
One thing this website has been good for for me is to better understand how depressing I am all the time. . . how negative. Even when I had a job I was bad, now I’m a zillion times worse. And, I wonder why I have a hard time making friends. . . now that I can see this about myself, that’s easier to understand. . . NOW, how to change it? 7 years ago
Do you ever catch yourself doing that pinched nose thing? Like when you’re completely exasperated with either yourself or others. . . I like. suck the sides of my nose in which makes the lines around my mouth get lots deeper and I just EXUDE negativity! Do ya? Or, along with the nose thing is the side of the mouth pinchy thing. . .like you’re thinking OH YEAH, RIGHT (usually accompanied with bugging eyeballs)! I need to NOT do these things as they only lead to more negativity and wrinkles. Also, since in my non-smiling state people think I’m sad or depressed (even though I may not be) this attitude doesn’t help. I HATE it when people look at me and say SMILE – I want to slap the peepee out of them! I just have THAT KIND OF FACE if I’m not smiling, people think I’m about to slit my wrists! So anyhow, along with everything else on my list I’m all down and out, let’s just add this one shall we!? 7 years ago