overcome my shyness more often

Sometimes it’s just hard to go up to someone and say hi! Or that cute guy next to you in school, and you just can’t talk to them without blushing, so you don’t talk at all. I just want to be, ‘normal’ and beable to talk to whomever i want to without blushing or feeling embarassed.

I still need to work on it, but I’ve come a long way.

Went out with a friend and her 3 friends and found it really easy to get on with them. also talking to alot more ppl at work and being more open. I have found that alot more ppl are making an effort and talking to me 2.
Also talked to a complete stranger who was in a queue in a bank with me.
Will be going out to a 30th birthday celebration of a person I know a small bit. There will be alot of ppl there that I dont know so I am planning on making conversation with at least 5 ppl.

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Well, I’m much more at ease in social situations than I was a couple of years ago, so that’s a start.
But I can’t seem to identify a reason to why I am shy. I think it’s just natural – I don’t have a low self esteem or even care that much about what people think of me, or anything else that might cause it.
When I’m with my small group of friends I can’t shut up, but put me in a situation with people I don’t know that well and I can’t even hold a simple “Nice day, isn’t it?” conversation. It’s as if my mind sort of switches off and I can’t think of anything to say. It may have something to do with the fact that it takes a very long time for me to open up to people … I don’t know.
I really need to be more relaxed when I’m talking to people.

Step One
Determine why you’re shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there’s an underlying reason for how you react in situations.

Step Two
Act as if you’re not shy. In private, behave as if you’re oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you’re out in public.

Step Three
Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.

Step Four
Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.

Step Five
Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say “no” or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.

Step Six
Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren’t shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.

Step Seven
Feel positive about yourself, don’t get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.

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the only time i’m not shy is when i’m drinking or when i am in a small group with just my best friends.

I AM 17 YEARS OLD AND I AM EXTREMELY SHY…..I CANT BE MY SELF IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS…MY VOICE COMES OUT VERY LOW..NO ONE CAN HEAR ME…I HAVE 0 FRIENDS….YESYERDAY WE WENT TO A PARTY WITH MY BROTHER AND HIS FRIENDS ı couldnt talk…ı just sat ın one posıtıon looked at people..they were havıng fun and me ı was so depressed anxıous…ı felt that everythıng ıs bad and ı wıl be lıke thıs tıll the rest of my lıfe

A year after I wrote this goal for myself, I have come out of my shell. I am not the shy, self conscious girl I was then. I might still have bouts of shyness but not the consuming, nerve-wracking mess that it was then. I guess I’ve grown into myself and who I am.

I had a go at forgetting what people thought of me tonight and to have some fun, as it was one of my friends birthdays. We went out for mexican food and I managed to join in and sing along to the music quite a bit. Some of them got up to dance, but I didn’t get that far.

I think what got me slightly down at the end was two people I knew from school coming up and saying hi as I hadn’t noticed they were there and they weren’t exactly the nicest people at school.

But all in all I had a great night. Probably more than I thought I would. I must now get some sleep, ready for my other friends birthday tomorrow (bowling and sleepover)!