Be in a happy and healthy relationship

To me, a happy healthy relationship is one where:
1. You both listen to what each other is really saying and try to understand each other as best you can.
2. There are no lies and you are both totally honest and can trust each other completely.
3. You make time for each other and do little things to make the other person feel special.
4. You both maintain outside friendships as well and keep your own social life going.

I feel like my relationship at the moment is happy and healthy :)

This is one goal I’m not sure I will ever consider ‘done’. How do you measure it? Time (one day, one month, one year)? Amount of happy? It’s one of my strongest aspirations because I feel it’s something others fall into easily, while I’ve experienced more than my share of dysfunction. I have heard people give the advice that, “you are the common denominator in all of your bad relationships” so this goal is a reminder to me to think carefully before I speak and think even more carefully about those I decide to have a relationship with.

I’m pretty sure I’m in love, but it feels more comfortable than inconvenient, relaxing rather than passionate and consuming…

I wish I could live with him, or at least see him for longer than one day/one night a week. Then I think this goal would be easier. I love him, but I want us to be even closer.

I think I’m getting there.