become a better husband

It’s not that I’m a disaster. I would actually consider myself pretty good at this husband thing (my wife might even agree). However I seem to miss some things that leter on seem pretty obvious. Am I seeking to be too perfect????? Maybe.

While we were in Switzerland we attended a Marriage Retreat hosted by YWAM Lausanne, http://www.ywamlausanne.com/. The Marriage Retreat was run by two couples from Revalesio Ministries, http://www.revalesioministries.org/, and it was an amazing time for us as a couple. Interlaken

I have been someone of questionable character. I love my wife more that life itself, but there is something, somewhere, that makes me always want to cover my a$$ for everything, even if it is trivial. I have always been this way, and it bothers my wife of 12 years. I don’t blame her. If I were in her shoes, I would wonder why I am so shady. It doesn’t make sense to me. I don’t really do bad things. I mean…I have done bad things, but I don’t normally. And really….I need to pitch in at home. She is not my maid, and I need to understand that.

Wow before you know it 10 years have passed and the kids don’t want kisses at school anymore, your career has surpassed your initial goals. Your wife is still in love with you and hanging on by the tips of her fingers. At some point you realize that with out her constant support and care you would not be where you are. It truly is time to become a better husband. I would like to thank my wife Stephanie

I love my wife more than anyone in this world, next to our son. We have been married for 3 years now. While we have been married I have been deployed to Iraq, and moved twice. I feel as though the conection we once had is now faiding. I know alot of it is and mainly caused by me. I try not to be selfish in the things I do. I know that she just wants time together. My job makes it hard for me to spend the time we need together. She is very loving and understanding, just some times I feel as though she does not understand my every day life. I am a squad leader in charge of an extra 10 lives every day. I just need to remind myself that even after work I am still in charge of making two other peoples live better. I have to love them like I do my soldiers. My son gets all of my attention when I get home at night. I was away from him for his first six months in this world. even though I can never get those six month back with him. I will never get back that year I missed with Winter. Tommarow I will see what I have written, I will use this as a tool to help me remeber the little things she does to make my life better. If any one has any advise, please feel free to chat.
JD

My wife and I had a fight about me taking my lexipro for social anxiety/depression. She then began to dump them down the toilet…I pushed her out of the bathroom and locked to door and told her to calm down…As a result of this act…she broke the door to the bathroom, broke pictures on the walls…I called the police…they took her to jail because of the laws here in Utah. I need to make myself more loving and respectful and responsible for my meds etc…HELP!! I don’t want to loose my wife.

Sometimes I dont let her know that as much as i should, and I am very mean to her about money. I know that she cant put up with that forever so I need to change my impatient and blame her for everthing. I hope there is someone who can help me with this. I never want to lose her, and I fear that could happen if I dont change my ways