Stop being so naive

Is it done for good now? In the last few months, MANY people have lied to me, or played in my back. A lot of people have lost my trust, and even if it’s hard to say, I think I do feel a kind of change in my perceptions and confidence. I am much more aware that some people might be taking advantage of my kindness and generosity, for example. Also, I know that some people will act like they like you just to get some love and attention back, from you. I must learn to remain distant, and I think I am on the right path.

From now on, people will have to prove that they deserve my trust, before having it. Sounds kind of right.

I am too Naive…
Yes I am repeating what I wrote earlier.
But I am.

Why am I such a pushover?
Why can’t I again have caring, loving and genuine friends?
This is unfair.
It really is…

I would say some people like my mom, myself, my ex-room-ate etc. are just too nice for this brutal, crazy world.

What I need is to get in touch with my inner bitch.

I am too Naive….

I Trust everyone… Why? I don’t know….

It’s amazing what a good friend can do for you. We were talking the other day, and my friend just said “glache, don’t want to offend, but you’re really naive” and I compeltely agreed. She then told me what she thought of people I thought were really nice, and after thinking about them some more, I realised she was right. I’m really glad, and not only because I’m learning to be less naive, but that day we talked, happened to be my 20th birthday. What are the chances?! A new year of life, a new decade, and no longer (hopefully) an angsty (and naive) teenager!

I find talking to myself and reasoning myself through things helps, and that’s what I did. Just look at people, and see what your gut instinct says. I realised then, that I was confusing nice, with actually being of good character. Many people are nice, but you wouldn’t be friends with them. Why? Because their characters don’t fit yours, i.e. they’re not of a “good character” for you. Like my mum says, we’re not beggars, of course people you mix with are educated people who know how to be nice. Which makes me think nice is a really vague word. Civil is better.

Anyway, I also realised most people are like partners-in-crime. One thief will trust that the other thief will do his bit so they both get the profits, but I doubt either thief really believes the other is of good character (which they’re not if they’re thieves) and/or would be friends with the other. So, most people can be viewed as partners, but not as friends.

Sounds confusing, but I think the lesson I learnt was not to wholeheartedly believe in people’s good character. If you take them with a pinch of salt, i.e. view them as merely civil, it’s much easier to judge them and be less naive about it.

I try to be honest, i believe in the best, see the best, blocking out the negative. Why look at the negative when there’s so much more to be had in the positive.

It gets me no where. I get taken advantage of, i see the bullet coming to me but i still believe, i don’t move, don’t try to avoid it. I face it head on, hoping that it would change direction, but it doesn’t.

I am left to pick up the pieces left by the aftermath.

23 years old and still so naive. One more year and I’m gonna start to worry about this. Mean while I can keep experimenting stuffs… let’s see what happens

I totally stick to the saying by Shakespeare: “Love all, but Trust few! Also Jesus Christ did not trust his disciples, but he still loved them even when they did him dirty.

To Myself I couldn’t have put it better! You echo exactly how I feel! I don’t think it’s because I’m trusting of people inherently (though I think it’s a big part of it) but because I WANT to believe that everyone in this world can be trusted. And because of that self denial, I ignore my gut feeling (which has been right every time!). So I don’t know if I’m naturally naive or I WANT to be naive or both! argh!

I have this girl at work and she keeps falling out with me whenever I do something good, so instead of being proud I try and build bridges with her! I always think that people are being nice and I always trust them! I do see bad in the world but for some reason i’m still jst so trusting! And when Im teaching if there is a complaint made I always think it is about me! Any ideas how 2 stop being like this?????

I don’t really know if naive is the right word.
I see plenty of the bad in the world.
I’m Just to trusting….
But I guess that would make me naive wouldn’t
Tho still I don’t TRUST easily.
But I still expect for that little good in people to BE there.
So…..yeah
How would one stop being naive?
Other than getting hurt…..and learn to build up a shell of untrust.
And I don’t want to make it my goal to be hurt
I’ve done enough of that already