Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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littlerusalkaDay 3

I was feeling a little down earlier on the way home from work and rather than dwelling too long on it, I focused on some positives instead:

I might be down today, but at least I am mindful of it. I am able to mind myself and am confident the emotion will pass.

I am appreciative of the kindness of others.

I am a reliable worker.

I love and enjoy learning.

I love hearing folktales.

I value the following qualities in myself and in others : kindness, empathy, gentleness, humility, consideration, honesty, sensitivity, ambition, self-awareness, creativity, humour.

I do not value : selfishness, violence, boisterousness, excessive self promotion, falsity, attention seeking behaviour and ignorance. 11 months ago


littlerusalkaDay 1

5 positive things about me:

Hard working
Sensitive
Strong self awareness
I like learning
Appreciative of others 11 months ago


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zakuraiit is a journey~

definitely making progress. I’m learning more about my self and my strengths and weakness. Learning amount my personality type has helped and ways to befriend my shyness. 15 months ago


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littlerusalkaSelf Acceptance

I have listed accepting myself as a separate goal, but I am beginning to see that being confident also comes from self acceptance.

A number of weeks ago, I began a course in mindfulness, which involves doing a series of meditations daily to help me be aware of when my mind wanders from the present. For example, when I worry about a task I need to finish at work in the morning, I am leaving the present and casting my mind into the future, using my energy to worry about something that is not yet present. I have managed to get into a spiral of thoughts and worries through the years, and as a result, have not been in touch with the present as much as I could have been because my mind would often be a million miles away. I was unable to just accept the current moment, acknowledge the worries and the thoughts and as a result, I was never fully present in the company I kept, or to the song I was listening to, or to the sights before my eyes. I was too busy waiting for tomorrow, to make things better. Doing such a thing is an insult to yourself because there is so much to be experienced by just being in a moment and leaving your thoughts at the door for a while. Of course judgement and thoughts are a good thing, but first and foremost, it is much more rewarding to just be for a while, to look at yourself, hear yourself breath, feel your body, notice how you are feeling and how your body is feeling at any given moment. Its the same thing with self acceptance. If you can just be for a moment and see yourself without judgement, a weight will lift off of your shoulders and you will feel more comfortable in yourself. I think that if you are gentle with yourself, self acceptance will come easier and in turn, this will also bring confidence. 3 years ago


littlerusalkaSo what is self esteem then?

As the depth and breadth of this area is mind-boggling for a novice, I have dipped my toes in the water this evening by turning to Wikipedia for a quick overview. Although I read the article with a skeptical eye, there were some useful nuggets that I would like to share. Today, I’ll listed some of the traits that it lists which are characteristic of those with healthy self-esteem:

firmly believe in certain values and principles, and are ready to defend them even when finding opposition, feeling secure enough to modify them in light of experience

are able to act according to what they think to be the best choice, trusting their own judgment, and not feeling guilty when others don’t like their choice

do not lose time worrying excessively about what happened in the past, nor about what could happen in the future. They learn from the past and plan for the future, but live in the present intensely

fully trust in their capacity to solve problems, not hesitating after failures and difficulties. They ask others for help when they need it

consider themselves equal in dignity to others, rather than inferior or superior, while accepting differences in certain talents, personal prestige or financial standing

take for granted that they are an interesting and valuable person for others, at least for those with whom they have a friendship with

resist manipulation, collaborate with others only if it seems appropriate and convenient

admit and accept different internal feelings and drives, either positive or negative, revealing those drives to others only when they choose

are able to enjoy a great variety of activities

are sensitive to feelings and needs of others; respect generally accepted social rules, and claim no right or desire to prosper at others’ expense 3 years ago


littlerusalkaThere is a reason why this in No.1 on my list

I am 26 years old and because I have had no confidence in myself for all this time, I already have regrets about my life. Why didn’t I make more friends at college? Why didn’t I party more? Why did I get involved in a number of destructive relationships? There are others, but there is no point in dwelling upon them because it’s time that I took action so that I won’t have even more regrets in the future. So to start this journey,(and I acknowledge it will be difficult and frightening at times), I am going to research different ideas and suggestions as to how to improve confidence. This will take time, but hopefully I will be able to share the fruits of my labor. x 3 years ago


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