be more confident in myself

ive never rlly been confident or satisfied with myself i was always too shy or not good enough. i felt like everyone would always be staring at me and judging me so i would just step aside and let life go by, but other times i would be on top of the world i could talk to anyone about anything, make hilarious jokes, be the most popular guy their (although popularity is a stupid way of looking at things. but most of the time im rlly shy but im trying to come out of my shell more…its just hard sometimes

Look in the mirror and be happy with what you see. Go out and feel that people are interested in what you have to say.
If you embarrass yourself in front of people i.e. slip and fall – don’t dwell on it. Forget about it and even better – laugh about it! Laughing shows that you are not embarrassed and that takes away any signs of weakness.
Be more independent and do things on your own.

Its still hard for me sometimes to be confident, but I don’t let it put me off doing things I want.

LOVE MY BODy

almost every of my friend told me that i am good in many aspect
every test i involved show me that i posses great potential for success.
My only problems is just i often stop too early just because my doubts and fear ..
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my lack of confidence socially is affecting so many areas of my life, it really gets me down :/ so i have decided from now on, seeing as my top 5 or 6 goals on here are all involving social skills, that i am going to listen to my CD on how to improve confidence daily from now on, not just whenever i need a bit of a boost or a few times a week. i’ve decided that although it might feel a bit of a drag at times, if my shyness is really getting me down that much then surely i can find 1/2 an hour every day to listen to it? i’ve had it for about 1 1/2 years and it’s worked wonders already, i just need to keep using it and have faith :)

ok so in university i’ve improved my confidence a LOT in some ways. i can now go clubbing, talk to lecturers/librarians with little problem, and go shopping regularly alone. however, although i’ve made one or two friends, my confidence has dipped considerably around my flatmates. i get along ok with 1 or 2 of them, but the one is a bitch and makes my life hell. 3/4 of them on the floor (there’s 8 altogether) are really clique-y and bitchy towards me, and yep, i know i’m quiet but if they’d seen me before (in high school) they would realise i’ve improved a lot. i may come across as self-obsessed here (which i am a little- i always imagine everyone staring at me/judging me and am very self conscious- not a habit i can get out of easily) and i think the way i alienated them at the start was the fact that i never seemed relaxed at social events -i was the one standing around awkwardly rather than dancing in the nightclubs as i’m extremely socially anxious and had never even been clubbing before-i was so green compared to them.then a few times i made excuses not to go out as i was so anxious about stuff happening to me (e.g sleazy guys coming onto me, drink spiking etc) and it must have looked a bit unfriendly. now i constantly feel unwanted and uncomfortable around them, but if i stay in my room all day they make fun of me. i’ve made a few friends outside of my floor and go out with them once a week but the rest of the time i’m stuck with my flatmates. i like the accomodation so don’t want to move but i feel so nervous and intimidated by their bitchiness. i often go without meals so as not to have to go into the kitchen and face them, yet they haven’t actually done anything really bad to me, just made covert bitchy comments and generally made me feel excluded, unworthy and “separate” from them. please help me with any advice, i know it’s pathetic but i find it impossible to change, i even listen to a confidence improvement CD once a day and that’s not working much..help!

p.s i really don’t want to move. i like the accomodation and it’s one of the best there. plus if i move it’ll be back to square one..i’m hopeless at talking to new people!

Confidence is something i always struggle with. im always comparing myself to other people and getting down on myself. i need to learn to be happy with who i am and present myself to other people that way.

..went to get a job application form the other day and there was a guy of my age standing at the till. i was stil a little awkward but i think i came across as the more confident one. and i could make eye contact without blushing, which is an improvement =)

i’ve improved a heck of a lot with my confidence around guys, and i go out to places a lot more than i used to, such as pubs, cinema, parties etc without feeling so timid. in the past week i had a bit of a panic attack when confronted with a guy i knew from the past and they all crowded around me when my friends had left me but in general, i am glad of this as it was a learning experience (never let your friends wander off without you again-lol) i find it a lot easier to make basic conversation with both guys and my own gender,especially strangers, which is great, now i just need to work on my eye contact and a few other minor things..

yesterday i went to the 6th form leaver’s ball, and i had been nervous about it a little as usually i find it difficult to relax in front of crowds of people and i find it near impossible to dance.. i really can’t dance to save my life normally! also i was really nervous about my parents meeting some of my guy mates before the ball as i am notoriously shy around guys anyway and i was worried about what they would think of my friends and how i would act around them in front of my parents (yeah i’m weird like that!) but you know what, it went great.. our group of friends was actually one of the first on the dancefloor and i was dancing in front of everyone, not caring. i mean to hell with it, i am unlikely to see everyone in my school year together again(unless we have some kind of reunion or something) and life is short. it was nice to be able to live life for once w/out being uber self concious and to be able to lose myself in the moment. my confidence around guys has also improved loads =)