Wildcranberries will be staying for another year.
to be together in five years’ time with someone who makes me shine and who I can help shine.
The non-negotiables: Loves me. Curious about the world. Witty. Playful. Kind. Passionate about at least a few things. Large-souled. Likes sex. Isn’t afraid to stand up to me if I behave stupidly or unfairly. [Edit: has character.]
The would-be-nices: Likes books. Loves language. Reasonably neurotic. Likes to travel. Likes nature. Likes cities. Wants to become better. Can laugh at himself as well as at me.
The things that don’t matter at all: Doesn’t need to be an academic or have a PhD. Doesn’t need to have a sixpack or look like a movie star (I’m glamorous enough for two). Doesn’t need to make a lot of money. I don’t care if he’s been married before or has kids. Doesn’t matter if he hates kids/little puppy dogs/cats or adores them, as long as he absolutely doesn’t need to have (more) children of his own.
I do understand that love isn’t a meat market where you go and pick and choose according to specific qualities. But this is what I want. And I don’t want not-this.
