i have come out but only 50%..lot is left to do :) 1 week ago

Ok so I already discussed signing up to a girls mentor-ship program accidentally last time. So I get to meet my mentor yesterday, she seems like an awesome girl. She’s 28 years old, working, and just a sweetheart :)

We went out with her sister (the counselor) and another mentor (who’s menty* didn’t show). We went to an art show/ music/ silent auction fundraiser/ food tasting event. It was pretty awesome, we took silly pictures in costumes.

I haven’t gone out with girls in like over 2 years! That felt so nice, and I got to wear one of my many pairs of heels I haven’t gotten to wear before.

All and all very good experience. I’m looking forward to regaining my confidence and social skills. :) 2 weeks ago

For 2 years, I did at least 3 things every day out of my comfort zone. It really helped. 2 weeks ago

The only way for you to succeed above the average person to constantly put yourself outside of your comfort zone. You need to do this either 50-50 or probably more than 50% of the time each day if you want to be better than the average person. And I’m hoping that I will eventually go with the latter option. 2 weeks ago

I used to volunteer as a translator and administrative assistant, I thought my file was closed, but I guess not. I accepted to go in tomorrow at 9:30am for about 30min to an hour for translation. I haven’t been downtown for a while, and to be honest I love going there!
So I accepted, I hope I deliver well.
I’m leaving the walls of this house for something other than the gym! or school (sometimes)! 4 weeks ago

My comfort zone ens at the door step of my parents’ house.
I have been locking myself up at home for the past three years. It’s a vicious cycle. Every time I manage a day outside, I pay with a day within these walls.

When I was younger my parents never let me out to play. Not even supervised by them, hence I still don’t know how to ride a bike. The taught me to compete as a child,so I was rough and friendless.

I spent most of my life alone, pondering global issues, my parents issues, my issues… Too many problems which I Have seemed to find the answers too as my problems kept racking up.

Now, I’m afraid to leave these walls. I don’t know why. I’m not sure if I’m afraid of people or just afraid that life might happen to me. (but I am afraid of my parents)

Life did happen. And most of it was negative. I can’t even recall much happy memories. Everything is just a big blur. It’s like I didn’t even exist. The worst part. I don’t even get calls or messages from people I knew, wondering how I’m doing or if I wanted to grab coffee. Nothing.

I have no one.

My parents. They are happy with that. They control me like a lab rat. They took my savings, my legal papers, and my courage. And whatever was left of my identity was taken by the last 3 or 4 strangers I came across.

I’m in a prison in a world of opportunity. :’( 1 month ago

Always calculating and recalculating events, scenarios to the smallest details, I have picked at my flaws over and over at hundreds of angles. But now, I need to get out of my head. My mind has become a prison, and it is a truely negative reflection of who I am.

I want to make leaving my comfort zone a habbit. Just part of my nature, the way I used to be. and forget the past. 1 month ago

Yes I decided to take them, it gave me the opportunity to meet new people and go out a couple of times.
Woohoo! I’m on fire! 3 months ago

My second semester of college started a couple of weeks ago. Last semester all 3 of my classes were online. This semester I am taking 2 classes online and stepped out of my comfort zone and registered for a class that has to be taken at the college. I actually enjoy getting out of the class and chatting with other people. It also helps that my husband is taking the same course with me, which gives me that extra bit of confidence that I need. 4 months ago

That was a giant leap!
Long story short: I was demonstrating a project I’ve been working on at a local IT festival and I was asked if I wanted to talk about it on TV for a local station. My first reaction was to deny the offer of course but then I thought that my supervisor (who wasn’t there at the moment) wouldn’t like the idea of rejecting such an opportunity and so I finally accepted.
I count this as a success, not because I found the courage to talk on camera but for finding the strength to watch my self on TV without hating me.
To be honest I didn’t watch the actual show on TV, I actually avoided it. Fortunately the reporter had also sent me a link to an online version of the show. It took me a couple more days to decide to take a look, but to my surprise I didn’t hate my self as much as I expected. 6 months ago

The last years my comfort zone has become increasingly smaller, geographically, socially and in any way that has to do with my everyday life and work.
I must start stepping out once in a while; unless I want to suffocate in the tiny bubble I’ve been calling my life for the most part of my adult years.

When I think back to the things I was willing to try and how independent I used to feel in my younger years, it seems like I’ve become a completely different, sad and boring person.

I became insecure and I’ve developed a number of phobias, thankfully nothing too extreme, but phobias none the less.

Small things, like having to walk by myself through the city, or use public transport, or even go shopping without my husband make me uncomfortable, so this is where I will start from.

These past days I chose to use the bus, instead of asking my husband to get me to my desired destination.

Although it may seem trivial to you, and while I am a little ashamed of admitting it, it made me a bit proud, since I’ve never used the bus all these years I’ve been living in this town.

So yay for the bus! 7 months ago